NiceGuy4Ever Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Hello my fellow experienced Lovers. I'll be straight to the point. I was in a relationship with my ex named Gaby (i hate using 'my ex' because it gets annoying). Anyways, when I was with Gaby we fell madly in Love. We talked on the phone for HOURS straight into the night. I would constantly give her presents that she would never ask for and she always thanked me but always reminded me that all she wanted was my Love. Anyways after three months she broke up with me saying she needed to 1. Address family issues (she has some pretty big ones) 2. Address her grades (apparently she wasn't always putting that before me) and 3. That my continuous intimacy was slowly removing her Love even though she did like it(this is pretty much the main reason). I felt so broken like never before because I had forced her to make that decision. The one girl that truly Loved me, I drove her away. I still feel guilty. Well it's been a good two to three months and i'm struggling. I definitely know that listening to Love songs won't help but I can't help it because it's my usual pasttime. What happened was we sorta stayed friends until my mother came into the picture and forced us to take a break. After two weeks I thought I was cool (naive thinking) and was once again hooked on the hope that we would come back. It seemed so until my mom screwed it up but so did her friends. Apparently one day she called just to say hi but i wasn't able to pick up. When i called back her two friends (a guy and a girl) impersonated her while the guy friend tricked me into thinking he was her boyfriend. I was crushed and went to my mom for consolment. What I didn't know was she told off Gaby's mom and told her to not have ANY contact with me ever again. Moms. So for a while we couldn't talk and I constantly search for advice and just was a desperate dog out in the rain looking for her warmth. Finally we started talking again and wondering how we were going to fix the trouble our parent had with each other. I proposed plans but she didn't like them because they would endanger my trust and goodness and her's as well. So i ended up texting her alot and just reminding her that I still missed her even though I knew I shouldn't have but I couldn't help myself. Anyways after a long while my dad who had no idea my mom intervened proposed to go talk to the parents and straighten this out. I was happy as can be thinking this was a sign of fate that maybe there was more hope. Sadly she never answered my texts from which i stated that I had a solution to the family feuding. I heard from a friend that she thought she heard she changed her number. That was it for me. I gave up and felt so sad but I did. I deleted her number and now i'm still missing her. Summers coming up and I need to find someway to get her out of my mind. I don't want to hurt anymore and am pushing everything that reminds her away. I'm even contemplating if I should burn her Love notes she gave to me and wondering what I should do with her stuffed animal she gave me. I need help in forgetting. I sometimes feel I'm on top of the world and she doesn't matter but I usually fall back to the depression that I wish I had her and how I failed. I just need help so if you guys and especially girls can give me some light to this please let me know. I have a sorta low self-esteem because of this single event and I know its stupid to feel this way completely over a girl but i can't help it. My past relationships have been riddle with only cheating on me and leaving me for someone else so you can see how much this relationship which actually seemed promising cut me down to my very soul. Please I need help.
Soul Bear Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 How old are you and how long was your relationship with Gabby? Paragraphs too please bro
GoneButNotForgotten Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Yea soul is right paragraphs. I had to sorta skim read it because the wall of text hurts. But from what I understand it is time to man up and walk away. It is not fun, but over time it is not so bad. You come to terms with what happened and what went wrong in the relationship. It is a learning process. What you need to at least do is put away all the stuff that reminds you of her and put it away. You don't necessarily have to destroy it. A lot of people put it into a box that goes hidden on a closet shelf until the wound has healed. Go nc with her. Pressuring and trying to win her back will not help anything. Start to work on yourself. The time after a breakup is one of the best times to work on yourself and improve the things that you wanted. Judging by your mom thinking she needed to step in and the whole grades thing I am guessing your still fairly young. This is a speed bump on the road of life. We all hit them, the key is to slow down enough that you don't lose control of the car but always keep moving forwards.
Author NiceGuy4Ever Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Sorry I'll institute paragraphs. Well I'm sixteen and yeah I'm young. But I finally let her go. We were together for 3 months and yeah it wasn't that long but sadly it's my second longest relationship. (I'm not lucky in Love) Anyways I'm moving on and have not been in contact with her for at least two to three weeks. I don't plan on answering any contact from her either. Thanks for the advice and I'm moving on, hopefully to a better future.
Intellectualbrat Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 I remember when my son and his school sweetheart broke up. He was also 16 yrs old...I cried with him, I sat with him on the bathroom floor while he already had banged his head on the wall and was totally devestated. He would call her and she would hang up on him, poor thing he was inmature, his first love. After a while he got out of the rutt and she started coming around again...Long story short, They married when he was 19 and they have 2 beautiful kids. But that did not last either, after 6 yrs they ended it and he remarried someone else. Just have faith that everythung that happends its for a reason. I do believe in fate. You are young and have so much ahead of you. trust me you will be fine. you will always remember her but it won't be with pain. Wish you lotz of luck. And don't feel bad about the love songs, I do the same.
boogieboy Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Its only been 3 weeks? Man you have at least a month before you only think about her half of the day. Yes, get rid of everything that reminds you about her. That includes throwing out her love notes and bears. Stop listening to songs that remind you of her. Find new songs to listen to while youre on your own. And unfortuneately, you havent learned your lesson from the last few girls, you dont shower them with gifts. You were always too nice. Thats why you keep losing them. Stop doing that.
Author NiceGuy4Ever Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 It's okay people I'm over her completely and enjoying life now! I'll soon find someone. Thank you for all your support.
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