lora22 Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Last year I checked out a dating website - this last for exactly one day, after which I CXed the account. I obviously "met" (not sure what the right word is) a few guys; one seemed nice, friendly, whatever, and we messaged back and forth a couple of times. He got my screen name and friended me on FB, which I was fine with (my privacy settings are VERY restricted, and when he friended me I added him to a list so that he basically couldn't see anything besides my profile picture and sn). Anyways, he never contacted me on fb, and he only IMed me a once or twice; convos were literally like "hey what's up" "nm, you" and that was it. We live in the same area and our last conversation was simply him saying, "If you ever want to get together, let me know." I responded that it was nice meeting him, but that I wouldn't be contacting me. Anyways, we never met, never spoke again, neither of us blocked each other or unfriended each other (I don't think either of us cared enough to bother, I don't get on either very often), and he very shortly thereafter got a gf (thanks FB for posting this on my homepage). In the last year I've signed onto AIM a handful of times (like literally maybe a dozen-ish times) and every time he would IM me "hi, who's this." The first couple of times I was like, oh we met on blah blah and that was the end of the conversation; then I got sick of it, so I didn't respond the next couple times at all; finally I was like WTF just delete my name!! So I very nicely said "You've asked me this every time I sign online, and since it's obvious that you don't remember me AT ALL, I would appreciate it if you could delete my sn from your list." That was a couple days ago. TODAY I check my email and I have one from FB saying that he sent me a message from him! I'm not angry or upset, but I was just like...really?? Are you serious? So I read the message and guess what it says?! Basically, hi, you have beautiful eyes, I have no idea who you are but we're friends on here, and I want to find out more about you, hope to hear from you. Anyways, I thought, what a scumbag, and then I was like, no, I bet he and his gf broke up, so I checked, and he's now single. So predictable. I have a fairly good memory, and if I meet someone once or have any kind of conversation with them, I definitely remember who they are. I might not remember details, but I will certainly remember meeting them, where, when, why, and so on. So by this point I'm a little annoyed that not only did this guy not remember me from our initial contact, but that he kept iming me, and then never acted accordingly (either delete my name without me asking, or remember who I am and stop iming me asking - I mean, that's kind of rude I think). So actually that's why the message kind of irritates me - it's rude. You don't tell a girl that she was so unspectacular that you can't remember one single thing about her, but you keep telling her you don't remember her, but oh hey, let's chat and get to know one another better! So anyways, I'm going to block him on AIM (betting he didn't delete me, he never did before), and delete him from my fb friends list, but I'm seriously considering writing him a message first telling him just how rude I think he is. Not a rude/mean telling him off thing really, although probably it would come across that way (for some reason people on here seem to think I come across that way, and I really don't mean anything I say that way - I'm really nice! ), but kind of an FYI, BTW...you've offended me. If I do this I realize it will be just to make me feel better, because I know he really doesn't care if he ever hears from me or not. The situation (and he) just seems slightly ridiculous to me. Anyways. Needed to get that off my chest.
carhill Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Nice rant. IMO, get those particles through the transporter buffers as quickly as possible to materialize a real human being. Particles stuck in the buffer tend to degrade over time IOW, use online and phone to get to IRL meetings as quickly as possible. The more time you spend bla, bla, bla on IM, e-mail, text and phone, the less likely real life will work out. You can't control the idiots out there, only how you respond. I feel a rant coming on....
Author lora22 Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 Nice rant. IMO, get those particles through the transporter buffers as quickly as possible to materialize a real human being. Particles stuck in the buffer tend to degrade over time IOW, use online and phone to get to IRL meetings as quickly as possible. The more time you spend bla, bla, bla on IM, e-mail, text and phone, the less likely real life will work out. You can't control the idiots out there, only how you respond. I feel a rant coming on.... LOL I agree with you 100%. I just feel like neither of us were that interested to begin with, and I thought I made pretty clear that we weren't going to ever meet IRL when I said that he shouldn't expect to hear from me. So why continue to insult me with a dozen messages about how he doesn't remember me? *Sigh* Some people
kostoronto Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 cool story, brah Add me on facebook? haha but seriously... I'm desperate for friends. 405 isn't enough for me.
Author lora22 Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 cool story, brah Add me on facebook? haha but seriously... I'm desperate for friends. 405 isn't enough for me. :lmao:you "ONLY" have 405 friends???:lmao::lmao: gosh, are you like, unpopular or something??!
kostoronto Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 I only add people I've seen a picture of, and, as of now, you're not eligible to be my friend. Desole. and, yes I'm very unpopular
carhill Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 LOL, must be the "special" picture section open only to friends or something.... OP, when those slower members of the male race don't take no for an answer, black hole them. If they persist, turn them into their ISP for abuse. Wah, wah, no internet mommy
Author lora22 Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 OP, when those slower members of the male race don't take no for an answer, black hole them. If they persist, turn them into their ISP for abuse. Wah, wah, no internet mommy LOL I blocked him on AIM, then responded to his fb msg by "advising" him about one of the basic principles of How to Win Friends and Influence People and The Art of Seduction. Then I deleted him from my friends list. It felt really good to "tell him off" even though it was in a nice way.
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