jlsinphx Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Please help me decode this man...My bf and I began dating last June. He was pushing for serious from the beginning. I was ok with it, but didn't need it. We broke up in Nov. cuz he couldn't stay away from dating sites. He didn't ever meet anyone but was constantly emailing. So, we kept talking and eventually got back together in Feb. Things were going well, not perfect, and we took our first vacation together over memorial day wknd. We get back and he keeps going on and on about how awesome it was and he wished were back in Mexico (on Tuesday). Then, on Thursday, he totally stops talking to me. I call him Friday morning and we start talking and he says he doesn't love me, even though he tried. I tell him we should break up then. He said he wants time to think. So, then he texts me a few hrs later and wants me to go to his softball game with him. I didn't go. He texts me again on Sat. but doesn't want to talk. Finally on Sunday, I ask him if he loves me, he says no.I tell him that we can't have a relationship then. We break up. He has texted me every day since then and when I tell him to stop and that we can't talk or text until we both feel the same way, he says ok. Then, the next day, he texts again. Why does he keep doing this? He only told me he loved me once, a few weeks before, when I told him I needed to hear something from him to make me stay. It wasn't heartfelt. So, why won't he just quit texting me if he doesn't love me?
asuman Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Because he wants his comfort zone. If he can get the benefits of a relationship without having to actually be committed to one, for him that's a pretty good place to be. I will give him credit for being honest enough and admit he doesn't love you though. He should know by now, a full year after meeting you, whether he loves you or not. So if he's saying he doesn't, I'd believe him if I were you and that's really the end of the matter as far as you're concerned. Who wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't love them?
carhill Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Who wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't love them? A great question and apparently the answer is plenty I do agree with the rhetorical tone of it. OP, when a man says negative words, believe him. Action is not required...
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