RunawayTrain Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 After recently getting out of a toxic four month or so relationship today is day five of no contact iniated by me. Every morning I get up filled with anxiety and despair. An emptiness you cannot imagine encompasses my soul. I have known this girl for two years and we just dated for four months, mutual break up but nonetheless I cried and pondered upon the damge that was caused. Ok I dont want to bore you enough. Today is Day 5 NC and she text me. Im itching out of my skin to text her back. Party of me wants to to show her that I am not an uncaring piece of crap however I know that if i do it is just opening up usless inane dialogue because the relationship did not work. Help!
iBelieve In Symmetry Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Since you two mutually broke up, it shows signs of maturity from her side. You have to let her know in a respectful manner that you want NC, and start back from day 1. I know it's hard and a downside that happened to me was that when I told her I wanted NC I was hoping it would make her want me more but you have to get in your head that she's not going contact you and that it's over. I understand the feeling of emptiness, pure devastation, loss, and everything else that comes with it. I also know how it feels like nobody else feels this way or has felt this way to that extent But believe me, we've been there. And I PROMISE things will get better. You will get better. EVERYTHING will get better. Oh and I also understand the feeling that the more people reassure you the more you doubt it. I'm just trying to prove I've been there and I'm still recovering but I'm getting there nonetheless. Stay strong! Something that really helped me was being with my family. I know a lot of people have sh*tty childhoods and this doesn't really help those people. But hopefully you had a good one and if you did, rely on your family! With all this happening, being with my family, the cousins I grew up with, my siblings I went through so much crap with, it's the only time I TRULY feel complete. And we all know that's the furthest thing we feel when going through this.
Author RunawayTrain Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 Since you two mutually broke up, it shows signs of maturity from her side. You have to let her know in a respectful manner that you want NC, and start back from day 1. I know it's hard and a downside that happened to me was that when I told her I wanted NC I was hoping it would make her want me more but you have to get in your head that she's not going contact you and that it's over. I understand the feeling of emptiness, pure devastation, loss, and everything else that comes with it. I also know how it feels like nobody else feels this way or has felt this way to that extent But believe me, we've been there. And I PROMISE things will get better. You will get better. EVERYTHING will get better. Oh and I also understand the feeling that the more people reassure you the more you doubt it. I'm just trying to prove I've been there and I'm still recovering but I'm getting there nonetheless. Stay strong! Something that really helped me was being with my family. I know a lot of people have sh*tty childhoods and this doesn't really help those people. But hopefully you had a good one and if you did, rely on your family! With all this happening, being with my family, the cousins I grew up with, my siblings I went through so much crap with, it's the only time I TRULY feel complete. And we all know that's the furthest thing we feel when going through this. Thank you so much for your input. It is greatly appreciated. The thing is we have done the whole no contact thing before, and one of us has usually caved usually me however this time I need to heal and truly mean no contact.
iBelieve In Symmetry Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Thank you so much for your input. It is greatly appreciated. The thing is we have done the whole no contact thing before, and one of us has usually caved usually me however this time I need to heal and truly mean no contact. I totally understand this. I've been there. You're doing great, trust me. Just try again with NC and you'll be well on your way to achieving what seems impossible to you right now. I promise!
Author RunawayTrain Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 I totally understand this. I've been there. You're doing great, trust me. Just try again with NC and you'll be well on your way to achieving what seems impossible to you right now. I promise! Thank you so much. I am kicking myself to stay NC but what she text me with I feel that I have an obligation to respond.
iBelieve In Symmetry Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Thank you so much. I am kicking myself to stay NC but what she text me with I feel that I have an obligation to respond. I understand. You know the good thing about NC is that if you fail to comply with it when it HAS to be done, it'll show. You'll end up getting hurt and that will be your wake up call. But you seem determined to do this and that's good. Good luck and LS will be here to help out whenever you need it. I come here whenever I'm tempted to contact her or check anything that has to do with her. And it really does help. People also support you here, and encourage you. It's a great thing. Maybe I'm falling out of love with her and in love with LS I joke. Good day!
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