Taucher Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 My GF dumped me 2 weeks ago. No huge issues and, as seems common, I thought everything was fine. The usual story of her telling me how much she loves me just an hour before she walked out on me. She did however have a few personal issues (as do I) and she also had just had the most stressful week ever (death of a close family member leading to a huge family bust up at the funeral and she was subject to a disciplinary at work for a really really small thing). Anyway, we have been going out for 4 years (living together for 2), had a lot of fun and she is the woman of my dreams. AS she dumped me, I never initiated contact but, strangely, she texted me or called me most days. I always responded politely. So we never did NC but sometimes I am not convinced that NC is ALWAYS the best thing. Not initiating contact but speaking to her if she wanted was fine - in face when we spoke I was friendly but kept my distance. I dont want her to think I don't care and I thought it was important to show her that i respect her decision to put her needs first. I think NC can sometimes imply that the person doing it is incredibly badly hurt and/or angry which I can imagine might push someone away - they think 'I cant put him through all that again'. Maybe. Who knows. Anyway, we are meeting up later for a coffee. Dont know why exaclty. I cant even remember if it were me or her who suggested meeting. I am fearing the worst and hoping for the best. I have a group of friends going to a pub nearby who I will rush to after I see her. Anyway, just some thoughts. Feel better now. Wish me luck!
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