hairdiva09 Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 When it rains, it pours..... Here is some new info on my relationship... My bf and I have been together for almost 3yrs. We have a good relationship (besides the normal bumping of heads from time to time), but his family is so wacked out, I dont know if I should stay with him or go because his family has some extreme issues. Prime example, his sister who is single with 8 kids (did you hear me...8 kids), is now saying that she doesn't want to take care of them anymore, which means that my bf, his brother and sister-in-law all have to come together, adjust and help in the care of these children. Not to mention that the brother already has 3 kids of his own as well as my bf has one daughter. Also, my bf's family (brother, sister and sister in law) participate in drinking and using narcotics, while he and I prefer to live life the right way by working and attending college. I know that the saying goes "you cant pick your family", but I have no idea how they can function now, with having to take care of a total of 12 children, which are all in ONE 3bd home (not including the adults). I love my bf so very much and we are doing the necessary things in our lives so we don't have to struggle (as much) and are able to lead productive lives, but with his family acting the way they do...it has become almost impossible to do anything. I mean, how are they supposed to take care of 8 (additional) children whos ages range from 14 to 5mo old. Sometimes I just wonder if this is something that I want to be involved in. I mean, how can the sister lay in bed with multiple men, have 8 kids and suddenly decide she needs a break and wants to be "alone". She actually had the nerve to call the other day and state, "Well, I can come and pick up the kids for a few days to give you guys a break." A BREAK...please...give us a break, these are HER kids... The parents of my bf are in another state (they left under salty circumstances, but that is another issue in itself) so they are not able to lend a hand. Please, someone give me suggestions because I am stressed and I worry about my bf. He always worries about the kids and does what he can to help them along... One thing that I love about him is that he will go without in order to make sure that they are ok, instead of letting them go to school with dirty clothes or go to bed hungry. I adore these children, but at the same time, how can their mother just state she doesnt want to be a mother anymore and dump them off on everyone else. No one in the family makes a six figure income, so at this time, all they can do is adjust. 12 kids is a lot to take care of, especially if the only ones working are my bf, myself and his sister-in-law (but again, remember that members of this family (NOT including myself or bf) also use their money to purchase alcohol and narcotics). What to do....What to do...?
Bejita463 Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 his sister who is single with 8 kids (did you hear me...8 kids), is now saying that she doesn't want to take care of them anymore, which means that my bf, his brother and sister-in-law all have to come together, adjust and help in the care of these children. What? No it doesn't. His sister can cross her legs and take care of her own crap. If she does not want to take care of her children there are options available for that. 8 children is too much to be pushing onto other people if she won't accept responsibility for her own actions. Your boyfriend and his family (I include you here) deserve better than that, and so do the children. Beyond that, if her whims get catered to, she'll just keep doing it. A foot has to come down eventually.
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