guitarplayer1234 Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 So my ex just broke up with me this past weekend, I was pretty hurt by it and he felt really awful about it too, I could just tell. I told him that I would let him know when we could be friends again and he said okay. So I started initiating NC on Sunday, and as much as I've wanted to talk to him I've avoided texting or calling him and I've pretty much avoided social networking sites that we are both on. Well I really didn't expect it but just a little while earlier he texts me...He says he knows I'm probably not awake but he wants to know how I was doing. As much as I wanted just give him a quick answer and not ask him anything in return I knew that it probably wasn't the best idea. I have no idea what he'd say after that or how long he'd try to continue the conversation. It really sucks to ignore him, it's just not in my nature to ignore someone. However I know I can't risk having any setbacks because I need to start work soon and I can't go back to feeling like absolute crap like I was a few days ago. So is this a normal feeling? Does anyone ever feel guilty for ignoring their ex?
My.Heroine Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 So my ex just broke up with me this past weekend, I was pretty hurt by it and he felt really awful about it too, I could just tell. I told him that I would let him know when we could be friends again and he said okay. So I started initiating NC on Sunday, and as much as I've wanted to talk to him I've avoided texting or calling him and I've pretty much avoided social networking sites that we are both on. Well I really didn't expect it but just a little while earlier he texts me...He says he knows I'm probably not awake but he wants to know how I was doing. As much as I wanted just give him a quick answer and not ask him anything in return I knew that it probably wasn't the best idea. I have no idea what he'd say after that or how long he'd try to continue the conversation. It really sucks to ignore him, it's just not in my nature to ignore someone. However I know I can't risk having any setbacks because I need to start work soon and I can't go back to feeling like absolute crap like I was a few days ago. So is this a normal feeling? Does anyone ever feel guilty for ignoring their ex? Omg YES! i feel like im neglecting him and his feelings. And then taking advantage of his attempt to open up and reconcile. I dont wan't him to get the wrong impression that im a bag or that im that cold hearted of a person and reaffirm his decision to breakup with me. If ne thing i want to seem like a better person AFTER him lol (which would attract him), not a mean person. But sometimes i think, well y am i so concerned...obviously he must not have loved me as much as i love him if it didnt tear him up inside to ignore me like how i feel when i ignore him. It's so hard to do that to him...but he doez it eazily to me. thats not right either. maybe we're too used to putting their feelings first....so when we cut them out for our needs..we feel almost more hurt for them. We love them enuff to let our guard down and risk our (already weak) emotional wellbeing. That's some serious sacrifice if u ask me. . but yes it hurts me every time for him, and he will prolly never realize that it hurts me more for him than im sure it ever meant to himself! u kno? That my friend...THAT is love. =) x0x0 don't worry tho we'll pull thru one way or another. as long as at the end...we dont LooK like we've been pulled thru a knot hole better dayz girl
redy2 Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 i found a quote the other day that i try and reread when i get to missing them. its something like i dont miss you. i miss the person i thought you were.
Soul Bear Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Redy2 thats excellent. OP- I wish my ex would call just so I could ignore her!!!
Author guitarplayer1234 Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 Omg YES! i feel like im neglecting him and his feelings. And then taking advantage of his attempt to open up and reconcile. I dont wan't him to get the wrong impression that im a bag or that im that cold hearted of a person and reaffirm his decision to breakup with me. If ne thing i want to seem like a better person AFTER him lol (which would attract him), not a mean person. But sometimes i think, well y am i so concerned...obviously he must not have loved me as much as i love him if it didnt tear him up inside to ignore me like how i feel when i ignore him. It's so hard to do that to him...but he doez it eazily to me. thats not right either. maybe we're too used to putting their feelings first....so when we cut them out for our needs..we feel almost more hurt for them. We love them enuff to let our guard down and risk our (already weak) emotional wellbeing. That's some serious sacrifice if u ask me. . but yes it hurts me every time for him, and he will prolly never realize that it hurts me more for him than im sure it ever meant to himself! u kno? That my friend...THAT is love. =) x0x0 don't worry tho we'll pull thru one way or another. as long as at the end...we dont LooK like we've been pulled thru a knot hole better dayz girl Thanks, I've had the same thoughts I don't want to seem cold hearted and mean but I need time for myself. As much as I want him back, I need time to heal and get on with my life and I can't continue to talk to him because it would hinder my progress. I figure if he ever did want me back he would try harder and make it happen, if not then oh well. It hurts me to think that he possibly feels really bad when I ignore him so hopefully I can hold out long enough if he tries to contact me again.
boogieboy Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 I NEVER feel guilty. Once I figured out my ex was flirting with someone before she broke it off with me, then found out from here that she keeps texting me just to boost her ego? F*** her. Ignoring her feels great, cuz I know shes not coming back.
wareagle Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 You should never feel guilty about ignoring him! He left you and now he is the one who is feeling guilty! Keep up the NC it is the only way to heal your heart and move on!!
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