Sam Spade Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Ah, so that's why you haven't been posting.... breaking out a bit I'm pretty sure you meant "breaking bad"
Regular Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 I guess I must be a total wacko.. I've been celibate for 6 years!
BlueHarvest Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Been over a year now. Coming up on 2 years almost actually. And I've been dating a girl for 7 months ...how sad is that?
carhill Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Whoa, are you waiting until you're married or something? I'm pretty conservative but no way I'd keep it in my pants for seven months. Just sayin....
knaveman Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 I'm up to about three years with no sex. Don't really miss it that much.
carhill Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 To append my posting upthread, I won't be having sex with anyone else while I'm legally married but that DOES NOT mean I don't want to. Jeez, what's with guys these days.....
CandiceIsMe Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 I feel your pain Kizik, I've gone through some periods of like you're experiencing as well. Try to remember it's a numbers game, so the more you are putting yourself out there, the better your chances will be. I wish you the best of luck!
headlesschicken Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 i'm at one month now. between 18-20 i went a year and a half. i'm a woman. i just play with myself when i don't have a partner. although i'm on the lookout for some strange right now.
stepka Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 IIRC, November was the last time for me, precisely on the day my wife's house funded . So, what would that be? Maybe 7 months almost? I'm still married so won't be having any sexual relations until after divorced and healed. I'm not wired for casual sex and don't think it's fair to a potential to pursue a relationship until the divorce is final. Really? Wow. B/c I'm out pursuing relationships right now, even tho I'm not completely divorced either, but I'm always honest about my marital status. I never even thought about it this way. My criterion are that I'm not lying to anyone including my ex, and there is zero hope of fixing this marriage.
bac Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 How often to have sex depends on your age and gender. From what I know you are a male. You can read in any medical book (behavioral science or psychiatry) in the chapter sexuality that the major rule is 'use or lose'. It is about sex with real partners versus masturbation. Other words, the men, who do not have regular sex with a partner up to 40s, will not be able to perform with a partner on regular basis. But they will be able to masturbate.
westernxer Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 You can read in any medical book (behavioral science or psychiatry) in the chapter sexuality that the major rule is 'use or lose'. It is about sex with real partners versus masturbation. Other words, the men, who do not have regular sex with a partner up to 40s, will not be able to perform with a partner on regular basis. But they will be able to masturbate. I don't buy that.
Land Shark Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 I don't buy that. Every medical book says it. Pick up any one of them. Look up "use it or lose it" in the index. They all have it. All of them. You should also be able to find an abundance of threads on here about some guy who didn't have sex for a long time and permanently lost the ability. There are lots of them.
westernxer Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Every medical book says it. Pick up any one of them. Look up "use it or lose it" in the index. They all have it. All of them. Must be a new term from the latest generation of experts. LOL
Storyrider Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Every medical book says it. Pick up any one of them. Look up "use it or lose it" in the index. They all have it. All of them. You should also be able to find an abundance of threads on here about some guy who didn't have sex for a long time and permanently lost the ability. There are lots of them. I've read it will just fall off.
Trialbyfire Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 I've read it will just fall off.That's from wanking off too much...
grogster Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 I've read it will just fall off. That happened to me last night after about a year of celibacy. Took me forever to screw it back on.
WineCountry Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 I'm a woman, and it's been over a year. However, I COULD have sex If I wanted to. As a woman, it's a bit easier for us to get laid. Seems like there is never a shortage of willing males. But, im not into the f--k buddy thing. I'd rather be in a relationship.
bac Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 As for 'use or lose'. If you have not had sex with a partner on a regular basis for a long time (like 25 yrs )then you have trouble do perform. Otherwise you are probably fine. You do not have to worry about losing it if you are younger than 35 because it is not long enough to lose it. As for females, they can not lose anything because they do not have anything to perform to start with. But with age women getting better and better at sex as a general rule because their estrogen level goes down and testosterone level goes up relatively to estrogen level. The more level of testosterone in blood of human of any sex, the better libido and ability to have orgasm.
Isolde Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 But with age women getting better and better at sex as a general rule because their estrogen level goes down and testosterone level goes up relatively to estrogen level. The more level of testosterone in blood of human of any sex, the better libido and ability to have orgasm. Holy crap if my sex drive is only going to increase I'm afraid... very afraid.
Trialbyfire Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 Holy crap if my sex drive is only going to increase I'm afraid... very afraid.She's got it backwards. Women's testosterone levels peak at age 20 and decline by 50% after age 40.
Isolde Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 She's got it backwards. Women's testosterone levels peak at age 20 and decline by 50% after age 40. So women's sex drives decrease then? I'm confused.
Trialbyfire Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 So women's sex drives decrease then? I'm confused. That's a variable, reliant on how much and quickly women lose their testosterone level. Testosterone, which is produced by our ovaries, helps to fuel our libido so when it comes to being naturally in the mood, yes, our sex drives decrease. Think about women who've lost part of their ovaries. They experience an immediate drop in libido. Here's where I'm going to throw out my theory. Women who experience a higher level of libido when they're aging, close to or post-menopause, than when they were younger, are using sex for reasons other than simple pleasure. As well, as you age, you learn more about what gives you pleasure, so you're also more willing to express what you want.
Jilly Bean Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 As I said in another thread - yes - and according to MeaganRaye and JerseyShortie, I masturbate b/c I am "insecure". WHAT??? I do it because: 1 - I love me 2 - I love doing it 3 - It's healthy I had a guy friend who went close to two years. Don't worry - you'll break your streak at some point. And heaven help that girl!
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