redant Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 I get in these moods where I don't want to talk to anyone, but when u are dating someone it's hard to do that. Is this normal? I feel like it's a huge turn off and then I feel like I should be alone or that Im not good enough, but this is only once in while. I guess I'm looking for support. I feel like I always have to be happy when I talk to my so but I'm not, mostly i am but not always. Is that a turn off?
carhill Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Someone who loves you accepts you as you are, imperfect and subject to the vagaries of your emotional and physical state. If they only accept a happy, bubbly partner, they're not going to have one for long
Touche Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 If it's a turnoff then you're with the wrong person. If you can't be yourself with your SO then he's wrong for you. No one is in a good mood ALL of the time you know. Is he?
Author redant Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 Yea I'm hard on myself. I'm usually cool but I get down and it takes a moment to feel better. I feel I should always feel good when I'm not I get insecure. Hopefully he does accept me for me. Thanks guys.
Author redant Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 Dating life tiring at times thanks for listening.
carhill Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 With the right partner, you'll feel secure to be yourself. That's part of the "connection". You'll just have this feeling that you never have to "act" in any way. You may choose to, on occasion, but the acceptance is there. A real danger of dwelling on those insecurities without addressing them is that you will repress certain emotions and, over time, that repression will eat you up and poison your relationship, as well as your psychological health. Ask me how I know
Soul Bear Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Thats what makes me worry about not finding another person like my ex. We have both loved and accepted each other in every state. We have seen every side of each other and it was very natural and comfortable.
Author redant Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 Soul I know what you mean it has been a long while since I have had that comfortable relationship. Where the other person knows me and loves me as I am and I can be me w/o worrying. I hope we both get there again soon! If it happened before it can happen again. Carhill how do you know? I do think that as the relationship grows I will express more. He will have to get to know me. I know who I am and I know my flaws. I can't hide them forever. I mean I'd like to be accepted by him like you said.
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