cecile Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I've been dating this guy for 10 months and I'm sure that I love him and that he loves me. We care about eachother. We've gone through couple stuff, fights and such. We've gone through individual growing pains, and setting boundaries. I'm sure we've grown together and that we're a good couple. Everyone seems to think we're beautiful and perfect together. I've talked about marriage with him and he seems to think it's just a piece of paper although I feel it has more to do with his parents on the brink of divorce. He's said he doesn't want to marry me and then sometimes he does. It teeters. I want to keep the relationship together. I don't know about him. I feel like we have an amazing connection. He's said that the world should never come between us. We both go to school in the same state but he might not return next semester; he wants to travel. I think he should return to school. At the same time, I think he should be with me next semester too. He has things set up there and he has friends. I don't know why he wants to go off and never return. He gets moody whenever I ask why he doesn't want to go back. I could understand a logical and level explanation, but it sounds like he has a lot of things to figure out. We've both made mistakes in this relationship and have our shortcomings. Recently he's been a lot more mean, not like himself. I feel that theres no reason for the relationship to break or to go our own ways. Is it selfish for me to feel that he should go back to school and continue our relationship and life that he has set up there. Is he going to come around. What's the deal? What's going on?
oceangrl Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Is it selfish for me to feel that he should go back to school and continue our relationship and life that he has set up there. Is he going to come around. What's the deal? What's going on? Is it selfish? No. It sounds like you are more willing to work for this relationship than he is. If that's the case, I would put my effort on someone else who is willing to reciprocate. We both go to school in the same state but he might not return next semester; he wants to travel. He gets moody whenever I ask why he doesn't want to go back. Recently he's been a lot more mean, not like himself. This probably means that he's trying to distance himself from you emotionally because he knows he's not going to stick around. Is he going to come around? If he wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't, then nothing can make him stay.
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