MeaganRaye Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I've been thinking about this the last few months and maybe being single is the best thing for me. I don't want a man who looks at porn, visits strip clubs, and looks at other women. It's hard to find a man who doesn't do all three. It irritates and annoys me so much that I'll be a spinster. Some women can adapt but I can't. Unless I find a guy who doesn't do all three than I will not be attempting a serious relationship in my whole life
lizzylizliz Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Ok! Good luck with that I'd offer you advice...but it seems you're more about making statements than asking for opinions...hope it all goes well for you.
fishtaco Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I've been thinking about this the last few months and maybe being single is the best thing for me. I don't want a man who looks at porn, visits strip clubs, and looks at other women. It's hard to find a man who doesn't do all three. It irritates and annoys me so much that I'll be a spinster. Some women can adapt but I can't. Unless I find a guy who doesn't do all three than I will not be attempting a serious relationship in my whole life I have the solution for you. Date a blind man.
Author MeaganRaye Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 I have the solution for you. Date a blind man. I'm not attracted to blind men
fishtaco Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I'm not attracted to blind men What if the blind man is old and wealthy?
Author MeaganRaye Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 What if the blind man is old and wealthy? I don't know any. And after watching the movie Ray, about Ray Charles, I don't think that's the best solution either
fishtaco Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I don't know any. And after watching the movie Ray, about Ray Charles, I don't think that's the best solution either Oh yeah, I forgot, movies are the best guides for life.
amymarieca Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Ok, the strip club thing I can understand, but why do you see porn and looking at other women to be deal breakers? A man could easily tell you he is not doing these things and then just do it behind your back anyway.
Author MeaganRaye Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 Ok, the strip club thing I can understand, but why do you see porn and looking at other women to be deal breakers? A man could easily tell you he is not doing these things and then just do it behind your back anyway. You're right. That's why I am remaining single until I die. I don't want to marry or even get into a committed relationships. Maybe I'll have a few flings here and there but I am not going to accept a man looking and admiring other women than me,religiously viewing porn, strip clubs or anything else.
BobSacamento Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 It's not that these women are adapting as you say it's that they are more tolerant than you.
bean1 Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 and looks at other women. Unless I find a guy who doesn't do all three than I will not be attempting a serious relationship in my whole life Yes, you will be single. Get used to it. If you want to control another autonomous human being to this extent then you have no business in a "partnership". Interestingly, "not being allowed to look at other men" is a common statement that women in abusive relationships make. You'll need to find one spineless shell of a man in order to find someone to put up with such controlling behaviour.
Author MeaganRaye Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 It's not that these women are adapting as you say it's that they are more tolerant than you. right. I feel so free saying this now. My life will be so drama free by making this decision
Author MeaganRaye Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 Yes, you will be single. Get used to it. If you want to control another autonomous human being to this extent then you have no business in a "partnership". Interestingly, "not being allowed to look at other men" is a common statement that women in abusive relationships make. You'll need to find one spineless shell of a man in order to find someone to put up with such controlling behaviour. I don't want to control a man. I just want a man who doesn't have a desire to do those by his own free will . If I have to force a man to not want to look at other women, view porn or visit strip clubs than its too much effort that I am not willing to engage in. Because I know deep down he really wants to. I want him already free of those thoughts and desires because that's how he is. Since I probably won't be able to find a man like that..than I'll be single and try to stay happy
BobSacamento Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 right. I feel so free saying this now. My life will be so drama free by making this decision Nope you bring the drama full force.
northstar1 Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 You're right. That's why I am remaining single until I die. I don't want to marry or even get into a committed relationships. Maybe I'll have a few flings here and there but I am not going to accept a man looking and admiring other women than me,religiously viewing porn, strip clubs or anything else. But you will accept a man for a sexual fling who is only valuing you for your body and likely doesn't care about your values or personality?
Author MeaganRaye Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 But you will accept a man for a sexual fling who is only valuing you for your body and likely doesn't care about your values or personality? Yes, occassionally when I want attention from somebody I will have a FWB or something like that. But I don't want all the drama and baggage that men come with (looking at other women, porn, stip clubs, etc). It really really irritates me and I dont like it at all.
redfathom Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 What is with so many people telling other people what they shouldn't and shouldn't do. If a man wants to look at porn and it's not hurting anyone (except your extra sensative feelings) well that's too bad. You're way to young to be so jaded. Stop reading books, stop watching so many movies. Life isn't scripted!
Author MeaganRaye Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 What is with so many people telling other people what they shouldn't and shouldn't do. If a man wants to look at porn and it's not hurting anyone (except your extra sensative feelings) well that's too bad. You're way to young to be so jaded. Stop reading books, stop watching so many movies. Life isn't scripted! When I had a boyfriend, I hated the fact that he had pinup magazines. I used to destroy them whenever I saw them. And when he and his friends used to talk about other women and how nice their bodies were, it would infuriate me. I just cannot stanad it. So I've made the decision that its best that I be alone. I don't know why I feel this way but staying single is the best thing for me. Too many guys are into porn and looking at video models that I cannot accept this. Some girls can from their boyfriends but I can't
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I hope that one day you will find happiness. There are men out there who do not outwardly show that they notice other females, and they do devote themselves fully to their partners regardless of what goes on inside their private thoughts. Some of them don't even like porn! These guys are not the norm, but they are out there. There may just be one out there for you. As long as you can accept that every human being is entitled to privacy inside their own heads, then you may find what you are looking for one day.
Author MeaganRaye Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 I don't think I will find that man. Most women have a man like the one I described in my post, and they are able to deal with it. I'm not able to. I've always hated dating anyway. The whole comparing you to other women, hoping you're somebodys type and if youre good enough for them. Just hate it
carhill Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 OP, I was black and white on such matters (not the ones you've described, but others) for many years and single for many years. I'm a lot more gray (perhaps 'colored' is a better word) and accepting now. Black and white is overrated, as is the resultant solitude. When you get to be 40 or so, check back in and let us know how it's going....
bean1 Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 When I had a boyfriend, I hated the fact that he had pinup magazines. I used to destroy them whenever I saw them. Therapy! Your need to control other people and destroy their property is a serious problem.
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