gypsygal Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Well we have been trying to work our marriage but we have not got passed the issues but we decided to stay together but husband says we are in 2 diffrent places in life and i am not sure what that really means ...plz advise
Gunny376 Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 You didn't state your age nor the age of your husband, but as a 'fifty-something' man I have found that what was once important to me? Matters not anymore? What was once un-important to me? Has stepped forward center-stage in my life. I use to live to work, now I work to live ~ for example. Relationships mean more to me, whereas before I was trying to climb up the ladder. Now? Tha' Hell with the ladder! I no longer believe in "tha' one" nor Ms. Right! I no longer believe in a such thing as the "one and only" nor "the one true love"! I beliveve in decent people and in being a decent person!
Author gypsygal Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 I am 47 and husband is 48 he does work alot right now and has alot going on ... i stay home work only sometimes ...
Touche Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Here's a thought: ASK him! Do you speak to each other?
Author gypsygal Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 Here's a thought: ASK him! Do you speak to each other? oh yes we speak to each other we do alot of stuff together ... i ask but he says we seem to be in different places in life and i know we have our ups and downs we were at point of seperation not to long ago ... and i know the issues are still there that we had but we never came up with a solution for them iether ...i copied the previous thread incase you need to read ...thanks for all the help http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t183499/?highlight=gypsygal
Touche Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I read your other thread. It sounds to me like this is the beginning of the end unfortunately. It seems he's given up. I honestly don't know what to say. Instead of growing together you've grown apart. You can't make him want this marriage if he doesn't. Maybe it's best to focus on yourself now...maybe make plans for your future. Good luck. You'll find some good support here when you need it so keep posting.
Author gypsygal Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 I read your other thread. It sounds to me like this is the beginning of the end unfortunately. It seems he's given up. I honestly don't know what to say. Instead of growing together you've grown apart. You can't make him want this marriage if he doesn't. Maybe it's best to focus on yourself now...maybe make plans for your future. Good luck. You'll find some good support here when you need it so keep posting. I hear you but its so confusing since we still do alot of things together and enjoy each others company but with the issues that we have we can't seem to come to balance ground we are tumbling from the foundation and sometimes we almost can get to the top but we fall and end up back to where we are ...
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