blindMind Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Hi there, this may be very long. sorry. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for more than two years now and honestly nothing but him matters to me. But i think its not the same for him and that maybe because the way we started our friendship. we started being friends when he had a girlfriend of 5 years. I had a crush on him after a while and i never told him about it. but then we got too close and slept together. He told his girlfriend and she dumped him. he wanted to break up with me too but then i insisted on staying together. we stayed together and we had lots of ups and downs and he was very thoughtful and caring at first. I even remember i totally gave up on him and he convinced me that we will work out and he told me he loves me very much. i think he still does. but the problem is that he can't get his old girlfriend out of him mind. he broke up with me last summer and told me that he needs to think about stuff and reflect, so he could love me truly. I gave him a month and I went to him and begged him to come back to him because i couldn't stand being away from him. this year i asked him, that i if he wanted he wanted to talk about his ex with me, well cuz i thought he needs to get it out of his chest and he said no. within a week from that he said his coworkers phoned and wanna hang out (they were all girls that i haven't met and didn't invite me to go along, except one guy) so i told him i don't want him to go because how we started our relationship. so a week after that he broke up with me and told me that he needs to be away from me. I seriously can't stay away from him, and i wish that he forgave me because of what happened but forgive himself first. I never want him to forget anything, but i want him to talk. so people i need some suggestions on how to get him back. please. thank you for reading.
Shock Me Sane Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Leave him alone. He needs to sort his life out. A month? Seriously, that is not enough time for anyone to sort out anything. You need to leave him alone, and if he wants you, he will come back to you.
Author blindMind Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 so how long is enough to sort things out?
hoping2heal Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Honestly, I think you should consider the possibility that he will always harbour resentment towards you for your role in this thing. What he really wants is his ex gf, and he views you as one of the reasons he doesn't have that. If he ever told you he loved you, it SEEMS like he did it because he's weak and he "used" you for comfort, but if he ever loved you , he would not treat you like this. I love my bf, and there isn't one man on this earth I'd ever need to even think twice about choosing over him. He's it for me and I love him.
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