IndecisiveMe Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 After years of being unhappy in my marriage and wondering if I should call it quits, I finally did. I moved out in December and have been considerably happier. I even feel like my relationship with my kids has improved because I can enjoy them now instead of wallowing in my own misery. Sounds like I did the right thing then, right? So why can't I stop thinking about going back? I know I have a hard time making decisions in general (hence my login name!) and especially when it's a huge issue, but why can't I seem to make peace with what appears to be the right decision for me? And how do I know that going back is really what *I* want and not just what is expected of me (by my mother, society, etc) and I've somehow misinterpreted into being my own desire? Has anyone else had these kinds of doubts? Is it just something that I have to work through and, eventually, they won't plague me as much? How do I know I'm not (yet again) making the biggest mistake of my life? Help...!
nature Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Are you sure you're unhappy in your marriage, and not just unhappy in yourself??? Often times, people blame what is easiest (their relationship or marriage) for their unhappiness, rather than looking at themselves. Becasue nobody can be happy in a marriage/relationship if they are not happy in themselves. Perhaps this is why you are feeling indecisive and doubting your decision. People often think the grass is greener once they leave. But once they've left, then they have to face themselves. And they no longer have the relationship/marriage to blame their unhappiness on. They only have themselves. Make certain it is not YOU that you are unhappy with.
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