loveshy Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 After begging, pleading... here is what I did... Went into No contact for 1 month... Note : It could be a 2 month no contact... but it depends on situation... -- In my case there would be lots of missing period as she would be going for holidays... So I needed to make contact before holidays... THEN I Gave her a call and asked her how she was and asked if we could have chat for coffee.... She said she was not sure.... After 30 minutes... I get a text from her to fix the date for coffee This might work if you dint do anything seriously wrong.. but had some personality trait which she dint liked.. Another approach I am applying is to make her miss me a bit... Then make her run after me...
crackerjax9 Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 did u wind up going out for coffee? and if so what happened? im going to try a month of no contact...i blocked his number so i dont call or text him.. i too begged and pleaded for a month and got nothing in return..
Author loveshy Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 @Cracker I am not giving MUCH into her... We are supposed to meet today but I wont contact her regarding the meet just to make her think... Right now I feel that I can't make her love me... She has started seeing some other guy so I think the best thing would be to leave her alone...
iNdespaiR Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 Another approach I am applying is to make her miss me a bit... Then make her run after me... how would you do that?
Soul Bear Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 do keep us posted, I would be interested to hear how this works out. Although, i have to tell you, be careful. Hope for the best BUT EXPECT the worst. It sounds like you are not over her yet, and are still playing games, which can be fun and ok, but watch you dont get hurt. So heres what I want you to do- Play it cool Dont talk about the R Be yourself Make her laugh Pay for her coffee, if she talks about her 'BF' lots, end the meeting, politely and go back into NC again and leave the ball in her court. Then try to move on with your life as best you can without her in the mindset that she is NOT coming back. If she gets in touch again, you have to re-itterate that you do not feel comfortable talking to her while she has a BF, unless of course you do really want to be 'just friends'
Soul Bear Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 How did it go? InDespair- How would you do that? I'll tell you. You go NC to heal, it MIGHT make them miss you depending on the R. If he handled himself well for the coffee meeting, and goes back into NC again, she MIGHT chase him. All depends on the above and how he handled himself, how she feels etc.
Author loveshy Posted June 7, 2009 Author Posted June 7, 2009 I messed it up.. After coffee we had argument.. In night I met her at the bar which was a HUGE disaster.. I don't know what to do so I will just stay a bit quiet.. The good thing is I DONT HAVE FEAR OF LOSS anymore..
hokusai86 Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 i've heard the no contact thing works. i'm currently trying that, not because i heard it was a good idea, but just because it seems to be helping my bruised ego after rejection. problem is, she will text me! we've been in contact every week since the split and she even has a new guy. weird. i do want her back, but it's going to be a little tricky. i need her to miss me at some point.
loser101 Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 I messed it up.. After coffee we had argument.. In night I met her at the bar which was a HUGE disaster.. I don't know what to do so I will just stay a bit quiet.. The good thing is I DONT HAVE FEAR OF LOSS anymore.. of course you messed it up, you didn't go in for the right reasons just played games. that scenario never ends well
boogieboy Posted June 7, 2009 Posted June 7, 2009 i've heard the no contact thing works. i'm currently trying that, not because i heard it was a good idea, but just because it seems to be helping my bruised ego after rejection. problem is, she will text me! we've been in contact every week since the split and she even has a new guy. weird. i do want her back, but it's going to be a little tricky. i need her to miss me at some point. Yeah dont answer her texts. She is trying to keep her control of you by making sure youre still pining for her. Its an ego boost for her. She doesnt respect you if you answer, go it? Dont answr any of her texts. Shes got a new guy and shes not coming back to you. Dont answer until she makes a point to see you. Dont take anything she says to heart, she will keep trying. She NEEDS you for her ego boost. If you ignore, it will drive her nuts for a while, but then she'll just give up. im still going thru this.
hokusai86 Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Yeah dont answer her texts. She is trying to keep her control of you by making sure youre still pining for her. Its an ego boost for her. She doesnt respect you if you answer, go it? Dont answr any of her texts. Shes got a new guy and shes not coming back to you. Dont answer until she makes a point to see you. Dont take anything she says to heart, she will keep trying. She NEEDS you for her ego boost. If you ignore, it will drive her nuts for a while, but then she'll just give up. im still going thru this. even if i still want a second chance with her? in the space of 3 or 4 weeks i had no time for parties and she met this guy there and started something with him. she got very upset when i told her how much she actually meant to me; she was thinking that i wasn't that serious about her. won't she hate me if i just ignore? we also have a lot of mutual friends, so it will be kinda awkward at hang outs.
Author loveshy Posted June 8, 2009 Author Posted June 8, 2009 Yeah dont answer her texts. She is trying to keep her control of you by making sure youre still pining for her. Its an ego boost for her. She doesnt respect you if you answer, go it? Dont answr any of her texts. Shes got a new guy and shes not coming back to you. Dont answer until she makes a point to see you. Dont take anything she says to heart, she will keep trying. She NEEDS you for her ego boost. If you ignore, it will drive her nuts for a while, but then she'll just give up. im still going thru this. Thanks for telling me this.. I cant believe but something happened to me after that night.. I am over her!! I am not going to do anything..
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