Eric566 Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Hey all, haven't been on a while in a bit. Went through a divorce a year ago and started dating again. Here is my scenario and hopefully I can get some insight to this. I met a nice girl and went out on a first date a week ago. We had just a casual sit and talk type thing. We had good conversation and ended up talking for four hours. When she left I got a nice hug and went home. Since then we have talked every night before she goes to bed and I text her while she's at work. I didn't see her the following day but spent the next three nights visiting her and spending time with her. On the last night before I left I gave her a nice makeout kiss...not too long but it was nice and she kissed back more agressively. I asked when I can see her again and she mentioned during the week I can. She normally goes to sleep at 9:30 or so to get up early. She had family plans the last two days which leads me to today. I texted her today like normal at work and then didn't hear back from her even when she got home. Two hours later I asked what she was doing and she said she was sitting at home watching TV. I asked when I could see her next and she said Saturday evening. Then at 8:20 at night she texted me saying she was going to bed early which is odd because we have talked every night. Her texts since the kiss have her calling me babe, sweetie, cutie and she puts kisses in the texts so I figured I did something right. I just felt it was kind of weird for her to change like that or maybe I am overanalyzing the situation. Did I move in too quick for the kiss? Is she seeing someone else on the side and trying to be sly about it by keeping me along until one of us falls through? Any ideas from any good folks on here? Thanks
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Eh. Maybe she just had a really rough day at work. I have those. Where I don't feel like talking to ANYBODY - not even my BF. It's nothing personal. Just needing some alone time to unwind. I can understand where she's coming from. If it's not work, then yeah - I'd bet on someone new in the picture. But I'd lean towards the stress thing, first. Just see how she is tomorrow. One sub-par day of communication shouldn't shadow the entire interaction.
oscakool Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Yea man, sounds like typical over-analyzing. It's ok though, all guys do this. What you need to do is to find something to do for a little bit and wait until Saturday when you guys hang out again. Luckily for you, I have insane text game One thing I stress on guys with texting is to not over text. What I mean is that when you text, and you don't get a response, don't text again 2 hours later. Give her at least 12 hours to respond, and then try again. Reason being is that sometimes people don't feel like texting. Rough day at work, busy with family, wanting alone time, etc. Soulsearch gave you some good advice from a woman's perspective. Another form of advice that I give guys is to stop thinking negatively about things, but instead to think positively. This is extremely important. If you're having negative thoughts on the relationship, she will read up on those and have them too. Women are amazing at picking up on emotions. You obviously didn't move to fast on the kiss because she kissed you back. Think positive man! She ****ing kissed you back! Hell yea! Let that pump you up for Saturday. GET PUMPED UP or else you're gonna walk in with low energy and blow yourself out.
dreamergrl Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I wouldn't read into it. Actually, if you ask me, you've had A LOT of contact and A LOT of visits for just having a first date a week ago.
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