bluewolf17 Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 To be brief, I have had NC for 3 weeks tommorow, with the ex only sending a text last Sunday hoping that "I am doing great". I didn't respond. Today I get a text saying "can I come get my canoe next week?" I bought him a 15ft canoe for Christmas. It is sitting in my parents back yard, and has never been used. He has asked to come get the canoe before (while we were still talking) and I told him he could come get it anytime, even if my parents weren't home (I don't live there). I meant that as a hint that I don't have to be involved. When he wants it, he can just come by and get it. So I sat on the text. It made me angry. He broke my heart, I have been so good for three weeks, and now he is sending these stupid little texts. And now on top of it, he wants his gift. (I was actually thinking of selling it on Craigslist. It's a good $700 canoe. But, I got weak. I don't want to not reply to that. In the end, I do love him, and I do want him back, but I also don't want to hurt anymore, and am more than willing to accept it won't work out. So, I decided, for me, I was okay with him having it. I did buy it for him, it's a gift. So I responded "of course. You know where it is". Short and sweet. I haven't heard anything else. Then I went to Dairy Queen an ordered a cheeseburger and a Blizzard. Drown my sorrows in fast food
Art_Critic Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Tell him sure.. come get it.. then promptly go fill the thing up to the oarlocks with dirt before he gets there.. Whatever you do get this over with fast.. the faster you exchange "stuff" the faster you start to heal
xxSRMxx Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Bluewolf I salute u! You dealt with that perfectly...kept the text short and sweet and to the point.
carhill Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 The sucky part isn't the money, it's the emotions behind the process of giving, IMO. There's this stupid "as seen on TV" abdominizer that my wife had when we first got together that she's never used, has moved from place to place and is currently at my mom's house. She just won't get rid of it. Now that we're divorcing, and all "our" stuff is at her new house, every time I look at that thing sitting in the garage, rusting away, I simultaneously feel sadness and this overwhelming impulse to pour gasoline on it and start it on fire. Perhaps that might comfort you on a cold night in your parent's back yard
LadyV Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 To be brief, I have had NC for 3 weeks tommorow, with the ex only sending a text last Sunday hoping that "I am doing great". I didn't respond. Today I get a text saying "can I come get my canoe next week?" I bought him a 15ft canoe for Christmas. It is sitting in my parents back yard, and has never been used. He has asked to come get the canoe before (while we were still talking) and I told him he could come get it anytime, even if my parents weren't home (I don't live there). I meant that as a hint that I don't have to be involved. When he wants it, he can just come by and get it. So I sat on the text. It made me angry. He broke my heart, I have been so good for three weeks, and now he is sending these stupid little texts. And now on top of it, he wants his gift. (I was actually thinking of selling it on Craigslist. It's a good $700 canoe. But, I got weak. I don't want to not reply to that. In the end, I do love him, and I do want him back, but I also don't want to hurt anymore, and am more than willing to accept it won't work out. So, I decided, for me, I was okay with him having it. I did buy it for him, it's a gift. So I responded "of course. You know where it is". Short and sweet. I haven't heard anything else. Then I went to Dairy Queen an ordered a cheeseburger and a Blizzard. Drown my sorrows in fast food BlueWolf, you kept it short and sweet which was a great thing to do. Is there anyway, you can NOT be there to see him pick it up? As far as the other texts, just ignore them...as hard as it may be. Hand in there... DQ? Well, I had my fix last night too! A Strawberry Waffle Bowl. It was DEEEE-LISH!!!!!!! Hang in there. I am on 32 days NC. Who would have thought...Honestly, it is getting much easier as each day passes.....
Author bluewolf17 Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 BlueWolf, you kept it short and sweet which was a great thing to do. Is there anyway, you can NOT be there to see him pick it up? As far as the other texts, just ignore them...as hard as it may be. Hand in there... DQ? Well, I had my fix last night too! A Strawberry Waffle Bowl. It was DEEEE-LISH!!!!!!! Hang in there. I am on 32 days NC. Who would have thought...Honestly, it is getting much easier as each day passes..... Hi Lady V, Yes, I can not be there! And I won't. I told him he can just go there and get it. My parents like him, and he is free to just show up and get it. Even if they are not home. In fact, I have told him this a few times, but I guess he wanted me to know. I try to ingnore them, but the truth is, I do want him back. I don't want to just ingnore them IF HE CONTACTS ME. But I don't contact him., Just short replys to what he says. And I got a Banana and vannilla wafer Blizzard with whip cream. Man, it was good.
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