Full Of Hope Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I was just wondering how many of you are FOW / FOM that ended up with their MM / MW?? (I know I could read old posts to get my answers but, wow...that's a lot of reading) I’ve read posts from OW / OM in the middle of their A, and posts by FOW / FOM declaring the end of the relationship…but, the success stories seem to be few and far between...
sugarmomma Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I I’ve read posts from OW / OM in the middle of their A, and posts by FOW / FOM declaring the end of the relationship…but, the success stories seem to be few and far between... That is because they are. Don't waste your time. Tell him to get in contact after he's divorced. They lie something terrible. Save yourself!!!!
Shadowcat Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 There are several former OW posting on the forum who ended up with their MM. GreenEyedLady, OWoman and ComplicatedLife are examples from the top of my head. I am yet to see an OW who first went Non Contact and then ended up with her MM. Anyone know of an example of that?
2sure Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 The FOW on here that I can think of, never really hid their relationship, didnt ever accept the role of OW and had very clear limits on how long they would wait. Also, the marriages that resulted in divorce were well on their way. There wasnt any talk of wait, wait until the kids are older, wait until my business thrives, etc. It was more like divorce or die, even before OW was in the picture. Nothing as vague as "I'm unhappy" , "wife neglects me". Marriages end. At the end of a marriage sometimes we meet someone else. It happens.
Confused4Now Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 There are several former OW posting on the forum who ended up with their MM. GreenEyedLady, OWoman and ComplicatedLife are examples from the top of my head. I am yet to see an OW who first went Non Contact and then ended up with her MM. Anyone know of an example of that? I believe OldEurope had gone NC and finally ended up with MM.
Lyssa Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 I was just wondering how many of you are FOW / FOM that ended up with their MM / MW?? (I know I could read old posts to get my answers but, wow...that's a lot of reading) I’ve read posts from OW / OM in the middle of their A, and posts by FOW / FOM declaring the end of the relationship…but, the success stories seem to be few and far between... Quite a few of us - GEL, OWoman, CL and myself. I think there were a few others before us. I'm not speaking for all of them but I think they would agree that it wasn't easy to get to where we are now. You have to be sure of what you want and make he knows it. Read the latest thread by GreenEyedLady - that should help you out a bit.
GreenEyedLady Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 I am married to former MM so he's now MY MM I went broke up with him 2 times and went NC. The 2nd NC didn't last very long, he knew I was moving on. And so he ended his M. We were together over two and half years though. It does happen, but you should also be sure that you want him for keeps. If he isn't a changed man, you don't want him; he'll just do the same thing to you.
OWoman Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 I was just wondering how many of you are FOW / FOM that ended up with their MM / MW?? (I know I could read old posts to get my answers but, wow...that's a lot of reading) I’ve read posts from OW / OM in the middle of their A, and posts by FOW / FOM declaring the end of the relationship…but, the success stories seem to be few and far between... Not sure I ENDED up with my fMM (now my H) as it feels like a beginning rather than an end
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