MichiganMan222 Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 There's nothing worse than your SO calling you an ex's name....but what should I make of my SO accidentally calling her ex-h MY name? We've been together for 5 months now and this has happened twice now in a week. She and the ex-h have children together and an amicable relationship. He and I are even friendly to each other. She was telling me she almost did it the other day (for the first time) and laughing about it, and today, she actually DID it while talking to him on the phone. Right in front of me. She was cracking up about it, but not so he could tell (she was holding in the laughter so her ex couldn't tell she was and looking at me with an 'OMG' look on her face). Neither one acknowledged the mistake. What do you all think about that? Is this a red-flag that she is putting us in the same category (as in, lingering feelings)? Has this happened to you?
fishtaco Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 At least you're the winner. You're the name she'll use first. I hope it's not because she's yelling at you all the time.
Soul Bear Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Well I can tell you from my experience, all be it a little different, my parents have called me 5 names before getting my name right before now. My 2 younger brother names, then the dog's names and then finally my name.
Author MichiganMan222 Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 LOL, no she wasn't. We have yet to get into an argument.
Sillybunny Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 This is not something I'd worry about at all. It may feel a little odd at times but everyone does it. If she's spurting out your name instead of his it's just because she's so used to saying your name a lot. It's like when you're little at school and you call your teachers 'Mum' or 'Dad' or whatever.
fabulous_chk Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Well I can tell you from my experience, all be it a little different, my parents have called me 5 names before getting my name right before now. My 2 younger brother names, then the dog's names and then finally my name. LOL my youngest brother gets called all the other male family member's names before we get it right.
Intricategirl Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 I'd actually take it as a good sign if I were you. I once heard a great explanation for why parents will mix up their kid's names, even when the kids are nothing alike. Take son 1, named Mark, who is a successful doctor. Son 2 is named John, and he's a convicted felon. While they don't really have a lot in common, they see their son, the idea of "son" fires in their head, and it fires the same for both of them. Sometimes the wrong name happens to come out. I'd expect that's exactly what's happening here. Somewhere deep in her mind, the same little neurons fire for both of you under the thought of "person of long-term interest." And because you're with her now, she says your name more often, so that's the first name she uses. I think it means that somewhere in her head, she's thinking of the long-term potential for you two.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 What do you all think about that? Is this a red-flag that she is putting us in the same category (as in, lingering feelings)? Has this happened to you? Noooo. If anything, it just means you're in the forefront of her brain. It doesn't mean she sees him as YOU. She just thinks of you as her love interest and he USED to be her love interest. Besides - it's much better than the alternative. I'd be much more worried if she called YOU by her ex's name. My XH used to do that - call me by his XW's name. Yuck.
mortensorchid Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 People make those mistakes all the time. Understandable when you are first getting to know someone - especially if the other had been married once before. But ... Well, I'll just let that other story just be for now. Ha ha ha ...
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