xpaperxcutx Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 No I didn't take it as you being harsh at all. It was something that I needed to hear. Why sugar coat things? I want to know the truth not just what I want to hear. So thank you very much! I have decided not care so much. I worry too much about things and what a guy wants from me etc. I just don't care anymore and I'm no longer looking for a relationship. If it happens it happens. Right now I'm just going to live in the moment and have fun. It gets very tireing always worrying and wondering if a guy could ever see you as gf material or whatever. Life is too short and as long as I'm having fun hanging out with this guy that's all that matters right? If it's meant to be something more will happen. If not then so be it. He contacted me tonight and said he had to work tomorrow but may be able to see me on Sunday for a movie. I'm not holding my breath and if it happens great. If not then oh well. I find when I don't worry so much I'm happier. Thanks for the advice! Urghh.... What exactly is it that he does again? I find it extremely annoying that he contacts you at the last minute that he has to work the next day. I have a friend who does this, but he works catering so his job requires him to actually be on call when his bosses need him. So unless he actually has a job like that or similar to it, I don't see why he keeps saying he has to work extra hours. Okay, here's what you do. Tell him, " Sorry no can do, I'm busy on Sunday". Leave it at that. If he's interested ( like very) he wouldn't hesitate in getting back at you to reschedule. I'm only telling you this because the catering friend I have makes it a point to actually call me and leave me messages to let me know that he has to work certain days, but he also lets me know when he's free so we can reschedule. And we're friends. So if this guy ( whether friend wise, or relationship wise) actually wants to see you, he would make an effort. Cora, you know me. I only recently came to the realization that if they're not trying at all, there's no point in chasing. Of course I learned it the hard way, but hopefully, I wish things would work out for you. But I also don't want you to hold on to the hope that he will come around. His flakiness is very much out in the open, and you know you can only tolerate so much.
MinziGirl Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 I would try to find out what 'other' plans he has in his agenda for this date. He shoudl be able to tell you and you can then decide if you want to give him any(more) of your time.
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