Peter_pan Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 hey guys n gals. i want to keep this short or simple, met girl over a year ago. got number, she wasnt interested. month ago she txt me asking who this number was (me) 3 weeks later i replied. we get talking. met the other night, hit it off well. walked her home, kissed. then later that night txt me saying i shud have stayed with her... txted since everyday. arranged a date for tomoz evening. followed by another dat later that week. i get the impression she likes me. but i am concerned that about 2/3 weeks ago she went on a trip to a theme park with her ex. she told me she dosnt do dates and norm backs out. but wants to go on one with me. yesterday she told me about a migraine she was having and still had it today. i told her i wud txt her later and tell her how it went with meeting my main boss. she said ok babes etc and i havnt txt her yet. and was thinking bout just leaving it. only because yesterday she said she wd txt me and didnt. so i txt her she txt back, i txt back, and then i didnt hear from her. she txt me first thing in the morn when she was up and said she fell asleep. anyway. not sure what im asking. i know im looking for a relationship, dont want to be messed about and dont want to lose myself. dont want to get my hopes up if nothing comes of it. yet i know i will since she is so good looking. i dont want to feel small and worthless. im a bit baffled as to why she is interested in me tbh but id like it to go somewhere. im worried about the ex in the picture.
lora22 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 *sigh* this is just one of the many problems with texting - no on HAS to respond, and honestly, you can't get upset or anything, because who really knows if/when someone ever receives it. I hate ex's, and whenever possible I avoid situations where I will have to deal with all of that crap (with my last bf I wouldn't have gotten so close to him if I had known what I ended up finding out about him and his ex). Anyways. My advice to you: don't text unless it's to flirt - and when I say flirt I mean that the text in no way conveys ANY sort of information (such as how your days were, plans to meet up, etc.) that people from older generations discussed by talking on the phone. Also, I think it's a plus that she mentioned she was with the ex to you. But I think maybe you need more details on that. How do they interact, why did they break, who did the dumping, how long ago, etc.
Author Peter_pan Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 yeh we do flirt txt and ask how each other is etc. i want to go on this date tomorrow so it would sort of step it up a notch. and your right, no one has to respond in txts/ earlier she txt me saying i hadnt txted her since this morning and if i was ok, how am i etc talked a bit. then she gave me a short txt and no reply lol. so will wait again for her to txt.. Also, I think it's a plus that she mentioned she was with the ex to you. But I think maybe you need more details on that. How do they interact, why did they break, who did the dumping, how long ago, etc. this shows her interest in me you mean, i.e pointing out, he is her "ex" together 3 months, think she left him. or he got fed up of her dancing with other guys in front of him.
lora22 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I mean that if she tells you that she's hanging out with her ex, then that's a good thing, b/c she's not being shady by lying about it (I'm hanging out with a "friend") or anything like that. Maybe my assessment on that is shaded by my recent experience though.
Author Peter_pan Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 I mean that if she tells you that she's hanging out with her ex, then that's a good thing, b/c she's not being shady by lying about it (I'm hanging out with a "friend") or anything like that. Maybe my assessment on that is shaded by my recent experience though. ahh with you. yeh ive been down the route with ex;s hanging about. its so annoying. makes me realise how easy i gave it to my ex lol
oscakool Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 im a bit baffled as to why she is interested in me tbh I'm a bit baffled too. The reason you are baffled is because you don't know yourself. The guys that get all the girls are the ones that have vision. The ones that know what they want and go for it, whether it be women, cars, jobs, hobbies, etc. I believe it was Plato that said "Know thyself." My advice to you is to stop thinking about this girl so much and find something to do that you like doing. Hang out with her when you want to, not when she does. Start leading.
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