lemongroveave Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I'm 10 weeks pregnant and terrified! My H is estatic, and I want to crawl in a ball and die. I don't know if I am ready to be a parent, I don't know if I'll ever be ready, and I just want to go back in time and un-pregnate myself. I know these feelings are pretty harsh, and I'm supposed to be all giddy and excited, but I'm not...what's wrong with me? What do I do?
quankanne Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 breath, little mama, breathe! I can only imagine how exciting and terrifying a first pregnancy can be, my thought would be to confide in a close friend or family member and ask what they did to keep the fear/worry/terror at bay. That might help to keep you focused less on the scary part. also, do the practical stuff that's need (take care of yourself, go to prenatal classes/doctor visits, get the things you need to prepare for the big day), then don't focus on anything else practical or scary, just have comfortable thoughts about what you're going through. Kinda like taking small bites to polish off a big steak or something ... keep it manageable, and you'll tackle it. and focus on the positive things you're discovering about your pregnancy, even if it's a silly as the teeny tiny dresses they make for baby girls or dressing your child up in his/her first Christmas outfit. That also might make your pregnancy more concrete rather than a vague unknown event. meanwhile, congratulations on your pregnancy. I've always felt that a baby is God's way of smiling on the world quank
quankanne Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 well, I feel really dumb, as I've just found your other post ... the other stuff I just said still stand, but first, you really, really need to get into counseling (individual and couple's) so that you get the tools you need to get through what is hurting you. Because until you do, you're going to feel like crap about your marriage and this pregnancy. no guarantees that it'll may you want to stay in this relationship, but hopefully, you'll figure out where to go next ... good luck, q
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