hotgurl Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Well My family and I are supposed to go to Chicago for my grandparents 60th anniversary. They made it July 4th just so we could attened. Last month was a very expensive month for us. both our windshield broke, his gas tank was open, the computer died and he broke his glasses. so we are broke. tickets to Chicago are $176-$250 depending where we fly from. I suggested putting on a credit card and paying it off by the end of the month. He just wants to pay for me & my daughter to go. I suggested driving which sucks but is cheaper. he doesn't want to do that. My grandma said she'd pay for his tickets so we only have to buy 2. but he doesn't feel comfortable with that. the really want him to come. the thing I understand the $$ situation but he also dragged his feet telling when he could get off of work. dragged his feet looking at flight. last night I found a cheap flight in July well now he says end of June would be better than July. I go home every other year. He has never come with me. I know he wasn't super thrilled about it but in seven years he has never gone. So I feel his $$ situations is a convienant excuse. What do you think?Am I reading too much into this?
2sure Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Yep. He doesnt want to go, but he is obligated to do so. Sometimes under these circumstances, a kick in the pants is required. Have him pay for his ticket and your Grandma pay for your daughters.
TudorII Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Hey stranger. I think as man I find myself making excuses for not wanting to do some of the things that my wife wants me to do with her family too. But I made her deal, I told her if it is something important to you and means a lot then just tell me that and I am there. Have you tried presenting it to him that while you know it may not be his idea of good time but it is really important to you to get to see your family and that he be there with you? Money aside, I think if you stress that it would mean alot to you then his excuses will hopefully take a backseat.
Author hotgurl Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 I have said it is important. But I am very laid back so he may not have realizd how important it is to me. what a baby! I see his family a lot. Hi tudor. and little T's running around yet?
TudorII Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I think like 2sure said, this just may be one of those cases were a swift kick in the @ss is needed. But yes I think a heart felt request to him because it means a lot to you but also means even more that he would do this for you could go a long way. And I don't mean nag him into it or plead with him, just a clearly, when you have his full attention request. No little T's yet but one on the way. Due in Oct.
Author hotgurl Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 Congrats! I think You are right. I know he is hesitant because I have a large family. He has meant about 1/2 of them already. Also he thinks it is just going to be a week of sitting around and yaking all day. Which is not true. We go to the city a lot of musuems etc.. I have tried to assure him that we won't just be catching up and have ask him what he would like to see since he has never been to Chicago.
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