moet70 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 So I am feeling kinda crap, and need to vent. I dated him for 6 weeks back in dec/jan, he was perfect, then the bombshell, he has commitment phobia, 37 never had a relationship longer than 6 months...he freaks out at the 6 week mark, never lived with a girl, doesn't know if he wants the whole marriage and kids thing. So we stayed friends, he took me out for dinner for valentines so I wouldn't be mopey at home, bought me a doz roses and took me to lunch on my birthday....helped me move house, we go to the movies and dinner every now and then. He has even dropped me off and picked me up from dates! We have slept together a couple of times over the past 6 months, but it has not been a major thing, and something I have driven more than him. I admit I am in love with him and probably hold out some hope. He had a month of work and asked if I wanted to go on a holiday with him, for a week, I said ok, hoping things might develop or change on the holiday. We didn't see each two weeks prior and paid 50/50 the whole holiday. It was so hard, $3million dollar apartment, gorgeous guy doting on me, he did everything, cleaned the apartment, made me breakfast, candlelit dinners at expensive restaurants, walks on the beach, shopping, ......but just friends.....totally did my head in and by the end of the week my anxiety was so bad I couldn't eat. We were at the gorgeous restaurant sharing a bottle of wine, and he said " so you must really love living in your new house, plenty of great first date spots in that area" I nearly died..... He knew I was upset, but I didn't want to spoil our holiday by having a big thing about it... so we came home and he went interstate for a week and said it's probably best we don't see each other anymore as he feels he is holding me back from meeting someone special ( In my mind I have met someone special..HIM!!) I just can't understand how someone can throw away a perfectly good relationship, we had the best week, got on famously, didn't get on each others nerves and shared the apartment well. I know I must move on...it's just so hard to let go of the friendship. he dropped me
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