dudemag Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 jesus christ i need some self control! i cant keep NC up no matter how hard i try... i do good for a few weeks then BAM, i email her and get no reply and just set myself back even further... what's the secret? should i smoke lots of weed or something?
TheBigCow Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Here are a few things I find helped: -Delete facebook ect ect -Delete number from your phone and email address from your online address book (if you have one), yes you probably know them off by heart but it makes it a little harder so slows you down and gives you more time to think before you snap. -Tell a friend whenever you think of contacting her, someone who knows you in real life, that way you will feel a bit of shame when they tell you that you shouldn't do it. -If you get the urge and feel your about to snap contact anyone else, just send a random email or txt to an old friend, even if you haven't talked to them in years, or a good mate, it doesn't matter who. It took me almost 3 months to successfully get into a NC period so don't feel too bad.
t0ri Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 You just need to get in the right mentality, and gain a lot of willpower! Seriously, just literally tell yourself NO, and remind yourself when the urge comes: that your ex probably does NOT want to hear from you; that it will do absolutely NO good for you except bring you right back to square one; that if she wanted to talk, she'd respond or contact you first; that you need to let go as you two are no longer apart of each other's lives; & that you're probably giving her an undeserved ego boost as she'll know you're still pinning over her; I could go on... I haven't had that hard of a time dealing with NC, surprisingly. But when I've ever thought about it, I remind myself of the above. And the fact that he was a complete jerk and doesn't deserve the validation that I'm thinking about or wanting to talk to him. That's a big one. Talk to other people when you get the urge. Or post here! Try harder! Good luck!
TheBigCow Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Hey one more thing that might help, if you've got any emails you sent her breaking NC or txts, go back and read them.. see how you sound (not taking a dig, just most people come across really badly when writing this kind of thing).
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