alclarkey Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 If you found out your date owned a handgun, would it creep you out and make you not want to spend any more time with him?
TaraMaiden Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I take it you are seeking responses from Americans only? I live in the UK, and carrying handguns is simply illegal. Even owning one is subject to rigorous legislation.... Other countries with different laws exist you see.... worth bearing in mind when you post on a forum with international input.... So in answer to your question - I'd not only 'creep' out - I would report him to the Police and have him arrested for being in possession of an offensive weapon in a public place. He would have a lot of explaining to do.
SilentWolf Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Im a bit divided on this one. My ex had a .38 revolver that almost took my life, but I can't say that Im actually afraid of men with guns. I come from a place where having a gun around may make you the next victim or save your life. If you have other reasons to think the person is creepy than by all means, walk on. But if its just because he has a gun you might want to ask yourself why it bothers you so much.
Prodigal Princess Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I take it you are seeking responses from Americans only? I live in the UK, and carrying handguns is simply illegal. Even owning one is subject to rigorous legislation.... Other countries with different laws exist you see.... worth bearing in mind when you post on a forum with international input.... So in answer to your question - I'd not only 'creep' out - I would report him to the Police and have him arrested for being in possession of an offensive weapon in a public place. He would have a lot of explaining to do. Yes. In most developed nations, owning a handgun is illegal. Regardless of legality however, I would not just be creeped out, I would be terrified. This guy is either a psycho or a redneck.
Citizen Erased Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 There would not be a second date, I'll put it that way. And y'all wonder why the rest of us think y'all are a bunch of rednecks.
Author alclarkey Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 Yes. In most developed nations, owning a handgun is illegal. Regardless of legality however, I would not just be creeped out, I would be terrified. This guy is either a psycho or a redneck. Or maybe he just likes guns? Also to all the foreigners, yes this is a question for Americans.
Queen of Hearts Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 If you found out your date owned a handgun, would it creep you out and make you not want to spend any more time with him? I own three hand-guns, a couple of shot guns and a few rifles. If you are in America... this is a right. We won the right to be free not because we asked our opponents to a dual of chess or checkers. We won the right to be free due to The Fourteenth Amendment and the right to keep and bear arms. This is our constitutional right. My father has 67 different types of firearms and the ammunition to shoot each one. I was raised around guns. I had a spare gun case in my room as a child that held my dad's goose and duck hunting shot guns. I respect firearms, deeply. And, though I am very comfortable with them, I will always fear their power. Which is a good thing. I am a mother, I am student of a Masters of Science program, I drive a toyota, and go to work everyday, I am NOT a redneck. I am from down town Chicago, Illinois. When I wake in the morning I put my pants on just like you. Just because there are people out there that understand their rights, respect and cherish them, does not mean that we are weird and creepy. In fact, people who think we are weird and creepy kinda make me scared. If our nation was ever under attack, how would you defend yourself and your family. If someone is going to break into your house and possibly hurt your kids, what are you going to do while waiting for the cops? "Excuse me Mr. Robber/Rapist, Sir. Instead of trying to harm me or my daughter, can you please hold tight and wait for the cops to arrive?" Not me.
Author alclarkey Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 I own three hand-guns, a couple of shot guns and a few rifles. If you are in America... this is a right. We won the right to be free not because we asked our opponents to a dual of chess or checkers. We won the right to be free due to The Fourteenth Amendment and the right to keep and bear arms. This is our constitutional right. My father has 67 different types of firearms and the ammunition to shoot each one. I was raised around guns. I had a spare gun case in my room as a child that held my dad's goose and duck hunting shot guns. I respect firearms, deeply. And, though I am very comfortable with them, I will always fear their power. Which is a good thing. I am a mother, I am student of a Masters of Science program, I drive a toyota, and go to work everyday, I am NOT a redneck. I am from down town Chicago, Illinois. When I wake in the morning I put my pants on just like you. Just because there are people out there that understand their rights, respect and cherish them, does not mean that we are weird and creepy. In fact, people who think we are weird and creepy kinda make me scared. If our nation was ever under attack, how would you defend yourself and your family. If someone is going to break into your house and possibly hurt your kids, what are you going to do while waiting for the cops? "Excuse me Mr. Robber/Rapist, Sir. Instead of trying to harm me or my daughter, can you please hold tight and wait for the cops to arrive?" Not me. You're preaching to the choir on this one. That hypothetical "date who owns a handgun" is me. I have a Sig P6 and I really like it.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I must be psycho because I'm definitely not redneck. I own a Glock .40. I don't carry it around all the time, but I like to take it out shooting (and am a crack-shot) and I also use it for my job. My XH owned a Glock 9 mm. My current BF has a ****load of guns. Many rifles and a couple handguns. I'm glad I'm not freaked out by guns. He's teaching me how to shoot a 22 rifle - it's fun! I think what's psycho is the gov't being allowed to have guns, but stripping that right of all their citizens. I'd be a little scared.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I own three hand-guns, a couple of shot guns and a few rifles. ...I am from down town Chicago, Illinois. I sure hope you don't still LIVE in downtown Chicago. LOL
lora22 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Yeah what's with all the judgement on people who own guns? I also have a masters degree, live in the suburbs, drive a hybrid, etc. and I have a handgun. And p.s. the stereotype of rednecks and guns involves rifles and shotguns, not handguns.
nobody's girl Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Depends on why they have the gun. If they enjoy firearms as a hobby, or have a legitimate reason to fear for their safety that's one thing. If they have the gun because it makes them look/feel tough, then I'd be more concerned.
lizzylizliz Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I like in the UK, and I wish I had a gun. I know it sounds bad, but try walking around late at night in your own around here, is all I'm going to say. Legislation of guns wouldn't make much difference, as the people who are going to use them probably have them anyway. I for one think there's a difference between the stereotypical redneck-gun totin' ideals some people have, and mature, responsible people wanting to protect themselves from a hostile world. So long as he doesn't point it at you, why be worried? At least he can defend you if someone breaks in
lora22 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 If someone is psychotic, or possesses whatever other quality that would cause him to ever point a gun at someone other than an intruder etc., then the "dealbreaker," IMO is that he is psychotic, and not that he has a gun.
JustLooking123 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Completely depends on context. Not a dealbreaker on its own.
prettybaby Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 My guy owns a gun and we're in Europe. I actually thought it was pretty cool
Chocolat Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 If you found out your date owned a handgun, would it creep you out and make you not want to spend any more time with him? No. If someone is psychotic, or possesses whatever other quality that would cause him to ever point a gun at someone other than an intruder etc., then the "dealbreaker," IMO is that he is psychotic, and not that he has a gun. Bingo. But ad hominen attacks are so much easier than making one's point with actual reasoning.
2sure Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I hate guns. Personally, I wish the US was more like Europe and did not hand out guns so easily. BUT , it is our constitutional right , and as such I really have not much issue with people who own firearms and care for them responsibly. I would have/have had issue with someone who brings a handgun on a date. I would especially have issue with someone who makes a point of showing it to me, on a date. Like "Look, Nobody F's with me - I have a pistol in the car". Those are the guys that have something to prove. It makes them feel "manly" to show you they have a gun. They lack not only common sense, but something much much bigger.
bean1 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 We have plenty of prohibited and non-prohibited firearms & handguns in our home (SO is a police officer so they aren't "prohibited" for him). Our safe is secure although we have had to be extremely careful with our little one now and ensure that they are straight to the gun safe after work. There are plenty of average joe's with guns here, even in Canada, although they are mostly rifles for hunting. I deal with guns everyday at work and I don't fear the average citizen with a firearms acquisition certificate (ie. registration). It's the rats who are prohibited from owning weapons that are the ones to fear. I have plenty of coworkers (police) that have been shot and none of those were law-abiding citizens with REGISTERED firearms.
BubblyPopcorn Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Possibly. I went on a first date with someone a couple years back and he told me he was wearing a gun, he also proceeded to tell me he was suspended from work because of his temper. I was like, woah, well thank you for the date, I had fun, but I don't think we're a match.
Author alclarkey Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 Possibly. I went on a first date with someone a couple years back and he told me he was wearing a gun, he also proceeded to tell me he was suspended from work because of his temper. I was like, woah, well thank you for the date, I had fun, but I don't think we're a match. Yeah, I'd be creeped out by that too. Wearing a gun a date is bad form.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I would especially have issue with someone who makes a point of showing it to me, on a date. Like "Look, Nobody F's with me - I have a pistol in the car". OK...see...now I would have a problem with THAT. But it's more his ATTITUDE than just the simple fact that he has a gun. I think people with that line of thought ARE freaking scary.
Queen of Hearts Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I sure hope you don't still LIVE in downtown Chicago. LOL Chicago is an amazing city. I wish I still lived there. I made the mistake of moving to Floriduh.
BubblyPopcorn Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Yeah, I'd be creeped out by that too. Wearing a gun a date is bad form. It was the combination of the two. I felt like Kirstie Alley in "Look Who’s Talking" when she was out on a date and she envisioned what her life would be like with them down the road.
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