blaken Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Hello Been dating my bf for over a year (we're both adults, divorced). Back in January, I broke up. He did not involve himself enough, basically. Lack of trust too. I think that's the big thing, I don't trust him and if I can't trust you, I can't see a future with you. We got back together a couple months ago. Anyway, Thursday, he decided not to answer his phone... for 4 days. Well, no.. Friday he did pick up saying he'd call me back, he did not. We had talked about a possible bbq at his friend's on Sunday, he didn't bother calling to tell me it wasn't happening. Me? The whole time I tried to contact him. Not like he didn't see my number showing up on his phone. Finally called me Monday on his way to work, left me a message. He called me again today, I didn't feel like answering, upset about his MIA status. He showed up at my house tonight and to make it short, I confronted him, he had excuses for everything. I didn't buy it, I broke up. Now I truly feel like it's the right thing to do. The only question I have is, was I right to get aggravated about him going MIA? Is it so hard to give someone a call "hey, I'm gonna be busy for the next couple of days" or whatever reason you could have. ?
Author blaken Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 No I'm done. He made me sound like a nutcase when I complained about his MIA, just wanted to hear someone's opinion. I don't want to be with anybody right now anyway, too much on my plate financially, finally getting back on my feet and I don't want the headaches of his "relationship". If I met mister right, sure, if not, I'm totally fine as it is. Let me add something I know, unless he's stuck in the middle of nowhere with no phone, if he wants to call you, he will.
Mermaiden Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Let me add something I know, unless he's stuck in the middle of nowhere with no phone, if he wants to call you, he will. But here's the thing, if you contact them too much in a short period of time they don't want to call you back. If I go MIA for 72 hours every guy I've dated goes wild wondering. (including the ex you've been giving me advice on)
Lucky555 Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 after posting that you had been together with him for awhile and then got back together.....well it looks at though you know his typical behavior pattern. Him disappearing was not right and like you said, "he will contact you if HE WANTS to." Sounds like he just decided to vanish and he doesn't sound committed to you. He sounds very much like a flake. I know usually guys will do this in the beginning stages but it sounds like he just did because he felt like it. He most likely knew it would bother you and he did it anyway. When your doing all the work its not fun and this sounded like he just didn't care and you should just move on. I truly think when the right guy comes along there will be no games and crap like you were just put through.
CandiceIsMe Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 I agree, If he is that inconsiderate it's probably best to move on to someone who isn't, It could just be the first signs off a bad pattern with him. You deserve better
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