icemann12 Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Hey everyone, I have been hangin out with a girl almost daily for the past 5-6 days, we went out on a date last Thursday which she said she really had fun on, and we are about to go get a bite to eat again right now. I really like her, and i have a pretty good feeling she feels the same. I just have such a huge fear of rejection that i am afraid to put an arm around her, hold her hand, kidd her, hug her, anything, what would be the best way to go about it? i REALLY need help here please as quick as you can anyone... Thanks.
kostoronto Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 It all depends on the situation. Say you're bowling - like I will be with Sat Night girl - and it's the final...bowl or whatever, put an arm around her and playfully psyche her out. One final tip: whenever you initiate any sort of physical contact, do it deliberately. Don't do the whole yawn/stretch thing.
IcemanJB Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 First of all, I like your name iceman. Second, I agree with the above poster. It really depends on the situation. Ironically, if you go in not expecting anything and not necessarily care if she isn't receptive to anything, you'll come off as confident which is obviously a good thing. I realize it's easier said than done, but try not to psych yourself out. Go in not expecting anything, except to just have fun being in her company. I've said this many times, but in my head, something just starts screaming "DO ITTTT NOWWW!" when it's time to kiss her; I think the same thing goes for the first move (holding her hand, etc.). I have yet to be rejected when listening to this "voice". Just don't try to mask your move - JUST DO IT.
kostoronto Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Like what Iceman II said, the voice is a great thing. Animals have instincts for a reason, to help us survive. Now that we don't have to hunt mammoths anymore, our instincts are used to tell us when we should hold hands. Instincts have been around for tens of thousands of years. Listen to them! oh and good luck
Author icemann12 Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 lol thanks, lets hope this works, cause i need balls, big balls
Author icemann12 Posted June 3, 2009 Author Posted June 3, 2009 in like 5 minutes, and i think the 99, i just took her and her son to see UP! the new pixar movie, it was awesome, shes just showerin and gettin ready
filh Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 start with light physical contacts, like high fives, thumb wars, gentle bumps etc. just gauge how well she responds to your actions then you can either move up or down.
kostoronto Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Or just whip it out, place it on her chin, and go from there. That was for the lulz to make you relax! Go get 'em!
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 You can gauge a girl's reaction to your physical contact without getting outright rejected. Imagine you're standing at a counter together facing the counter. Just sidestep enough that your hips are touching. There are many ways to make subtle touches like this and see how she reacts. If she actually NOTICES and LIKES the touch, she'll move in closer, or she at the very least will not break physical contact right away. But I'd say the main thing is definitely to be confident. I hate that awkward feeling when the guy is debating whether or not to touch. Weirdness. I can feel the "should I?" oozing from his pores. LOL Just do it. As long as you're not forceful and you are respectful when you do it, even if you get rejected, it's not that big of a deal. Hope you guys had fun tonight.
Author icemann12 Posted June 4, 2009 Author Posted June 4, 2009 yeah we had fun, but i didnt try to kiss her, and i was drunk, i messaged her after sayin hey im a retard and my dick turtled and fell off tonight i feel like a ****head for not kissin you but i really like hangin out with you and we should again soon And she replied haha omg at first i thought this was about turtle dicks. I think its ok. and of course we will hang out son we have fun together and your my sons new bff So im a complete retard for not doing it, but i guess she basically said i should of huh....
BobSacamento Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 Dude it's pretty easy. At the end of the night when your going to say goodbye. Just stand there and stare at her. At that moment she will either: 1. Know that a possible kiss is coming and stay and wait for it (and right at the time the moment becomes somewhat awkward - make the move.). 2. Go for the preemptive hug and say goodnight in order to avoid the kiss. 3. She'll lay one on you. After the first one with a new girl the rest are so easy so get it over with!
oscakool Posted June 4, 2009 Posted June 4, 2009 One of the first things I teach guys is how to touch women from when you first meet them. There's little subtle touches you can do. For example, in a club or a loud bar, when you meet a girl you put your hand on her shoulder and speak into her ear. Someone mentioned high fives and thumb wars. Those are all good. Hugging is a great way to greet women, I greet all women that I meet with a hug. Putting your hand on the middle of their back when walking through a crowd is a good way to establish contact. Or if you're leading the way, grab her hand and take her through the crowd.
Author icemann12 Posted June 5, 2009 Author Posted June 5, 2009 I did it everyone, i was at the Prudential Center in boston so as we were leavin i was like i think you owe me a kiss, and she said ew and threw me a look, which i could tell she was kidding, so when i dropped her off i just went for it, and it was def worth it, so glad i did it, and yeah, im proud of myself
Author icemann12 Posted June 10, 2009 Author Posted June 10, 2009 So as of last thursday i got the kiss, and since then, i went minigolfing with her and her son on saturday. Then today we went to the Childrens Museum in Boston, then i left for a while and went and got her to go see a movie, and i havent hugged/kissed her since, and for some reason im just thinkin, am i sending weird signals by doing that? Is it ok or do i need to keep a constant with physical interaction, advice? pointers?
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