tigerstripes Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 So I met a new guy at work who is cute, brilliant, and close to my age. I don't know if he's interested in me but he's bent over backwards to talk to me about work. I have no idea what his personality is like but I know he's married to his career. But since I just got out of a relationship I'm worried that pursuing a relationship, if I get to know him and like his personality, will be a disaster. On the other hand I could pursue it as a fling. However, I wouldn't want whatever happens to have a negative impact on my own career. I would also like to mention that I hadn't seen my ex for months so the separation isn't very harsh. thoughts?
BCCA Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I absolutely dont date people from work, so I'll let someone else with a better feeling about it respond. All I can say is be careful.
Author tigerstripes Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Does anyone have any usable advice?
stepka Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 My first question is: how much do you see him at work? Like, if you went out w/ him and it didn't work, would you be stuck working closely w/ him? I'm not one of those people who won't date people from work, though I'd only be very careful about it and not do casual dating with several coworkers. I actually believe it has some advantages, such as getting to know someone in depth b/f going out w/ them, and seeing how they interact w/ other people and under stress. That can tell you a lot about a person. So, my advice would be to not get into a hurry w/ this one--just get to know him and then if you just can't resist and he seems to be a keeper, go for it. I would not do a fling. I'd save those for someone I didn't have to work with everyday, and the news has a tendency to get around and then if you date another coworker later. . . you get the picture.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Eh. I say get to know the guy further before deciding if you want to go that route. I met my XH on the job and if things HAD gone south, it would have been a little weird seeing as how he was one of my supervisors. LOL I don't see what the big deal is. As long as the both of you are mature to begin with, a break-up shouldn't turn anyone into a monster. But again - it sounds like you're still getting a feel for what this guy's about. Just get to know him and you can decide if it's WORTH pursuing romantically. For all you know, he may end up not even being worth it to date, but you could end up with a really good friend.
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