zhsoj Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I did make myself pretty clear, when I didn't return any of his texts. I wasn't even being nice, I pretty much disappeared on him. I wasn't even planning on letting him down nicely. His behaviour was unacceptable to me so I don't feel the need to actually tell him to go to hell. That's 10 cents per text. Not as clear as saying "I don't want to hear from you anymore". He's a lawyer and all he risks every time he contacts you is 10 cents. Think he cares about that? Not how I roll, but then I can understand where he's coming from. You don't want him to contact you anymore. Tell him. And don't text it. You'll feel more empowered I'd wager.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Nope. I think you were insulted that the guy who allegedly repulsed you (lawyer guy) didn't call after the date. It was a blow to the ego. Now that he IS trying to contact you, you've taken up mocking him, for a ridiculous, and very HYPOCRITICAL reason. :lmao: Your post makes me laugh. He tried to get me to go on another date but I never responded to him. So clearly he got the point. Why would I let him affect my ego?
BobSacamento Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I don't believe you. When did this become a witch hunt? You sound like a psycho.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 That is odd though. 3 weeks with no contact and then all of a sudden to make contact. Perhaps he was multidating and got a little serious with someone else. I don't think you have to Text him back, do whatever you want. I mean hell 3 days is too long. When did he get your number btw? I hope it wasn't at the end of the date cause that's a big time mix signal. See Bob, you get it. No, he has my number since before our date, and after it I disappeared. So why the need to contact me now?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 I don't believe you. Wow SG, you honestly don't believe me? I've been trying to tell you this whole time that the only person I have had sex with aside from my ex has been artist guy. That's why I've been so defensive when you guys accuse me of being promiscuous. Once again: I only hooked up with artist guy, I haven't had sex with anyone else.
BobSacamento Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 See Bob, you get it. No, he has my number since before our date, and after it I disappeared. So why the need to contact me now? He's probably just testing the waters. I wouldn't respond back. This guy has stalker material written all over him.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Not as clear as saying "I don't want to hear from you anymore". He's a lawyer and all he risks every time he contacts you is 10 cents. Think he cares about that? Not how I roll, but then I can understand where he's coming from. You don't want him to contact you anymore. Tell him. And don't text it. You'll feel more empowered I'd wager. One thing though, he's a lawyer, so why waste his time with me? Why even bother trying to get me to go out with him? He's smart, well off, clearly he knew when I stopped contact that I don't want anything to do with him. Yet, now after three weeks, he decides to text me again. So clearly he's not all that smart, and it confirms my suspicions that he has ulterior motives.
carhill Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Does that make sense at all? Yes, it does. I was up here at midnight in Cali looking for a running train to get you home BCCA, three weeks of no contact and you would still try to ask out a girl? Not BCCA, but, yes, for a thick-headed tongue-sticker like V, completely normal. You're just another potential receptacle in his Iphone. IMO, let's push the focus onto meeting some good men and having positive threads about those experiences. Send this stuff into the circular file. No one is perfect. They made mistakes. You made mistakes. Learn from them. Move forward
Soul Bear Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 he has ulterior motives. My thoughts exactly. Steer clear
dreamergrl Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Paper you went to his house, on what, the first date? Most guys would assume you were interested for that fact alone. Not to mention you haven't told him you weren't interested. He probably thinks you are playing hard to get. Look you go out with guys, letting them think it's a date. You obviously aren't doing anything to prove them wrong if they keep calling. The common denominator is YOU.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 When did this become a witch hunt? You sound like a psycho. I understand where SG is coming from, she thinks that I'm a pathological liar based on my posts. But I honestly, swear to God ( even though I'm agnostic) that I haven't hooked up with anyone except Artist guy since my ex. I like sex but I'm not promiscuous to the point where I will sleep and go down with every guy I date. That's why I was so defensive when everyone accused me of being a slut. Yes I'm open to the ideas of casual sex, but even then I would not put myself in a position to actually have sex with just anyone.
carhill Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 One thing though, he's a lawyer, so why waste his time with me?Oh, also, IME, never engage a lawyer that you don't want to have contact with in debate. They'll eat you for their morning constitutional. It's just not worth your time. Silence sandwich .....
Soul Bear Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Carhill you done it again! Hit the nail on the head!! Someone get him a lamp and change his name to 'Genie'
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Paper you went to his house, on what, the first date? Most guys would assume you were interested for that fact alone. Not to mention you haven't told him you weren't interested. He probably thinks you are playing hard to get. Look you go out with guys, letting them think it's a date. You obviously aren't doing anything to prove them wrong if they keep calling. The common denominator is YOU. Read the part where I wanted to see his swimming pool. That was it, he had wanted to show me his swimming and I thought it was cool to have an apartment swimming pool. I never said I intentionally wanted to go back to his place, it was just that he suggested something that I thought would be great to see. I never purposely put myself in that position.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Oh, also, IME, never engage a lawyer that you don't want to have contact with in debate. They'll eat you for their morning constitutional. It's just not worth your time. Silence sandwich ..... I'll take that advice. But I've already engaged two, one's V, the other SG. V is easier to avoid, but SG is practically at my throat.
Star Gazer Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I understand where SG is coming from, she thinks that I'm a pathological liar based on my posts. Yup, I do. You're always inconsistent, flip flopping. I honestly don't know why I even respond to these threads anymore. I suppose I should stop, and post to someone who's actually receptive to HELP.
Star Gazer Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Read the part where I wanted to see his swimming pool. That was it, he had wanted to show me his swimming and I thought it was cool to have an apartment swimming pool. I never said I intentionally wanted to go back to his place, it was just that he suggested something that I thought would be great to see. I never purposely put myself in that position. So sad. Another lie!!!! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=2177803&postcount=74 You knew FULL WELL what you were doing, going back to his place to watch TV and eat takeout. "See his swimming pool?" Yeah, right.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Yup, I do. You're always inconsistent, flip flopping. I honestly don't know why I even respond to these threads anymore. I suppose I should stop, and post to someone who's actually receptive to HELP. SG, I'm inconsistent because I post when my emotions runs rampant. They affect my writings to a degree. I'm sorry to have confused you, yet I still feel the need to clear the air with you. Earlier in the year, I had a fling with my ex, which broke off because he was cheating with me on his gf. After that, I haven't dated until I met Artist guy. It was instant attraction on my part, and giving him blowjobs is and was in a way to get his validation. Then I started multidating, because Artist guy and I weren't exclusive, which resulted in me dating guys I have no attractions towards (namely V) and finding myself back with Artist guy. So you understand my dilemma at that time? I wanted a relationship with Artist guy but he told me he didn't see things going anywhere, thus, I ceased contact, and here I am spending the past weekend alone, and dateless.
dreamergrl Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Read the part where I wanted to see his swimming pool. That was it, he had wanted to show me his swimming and I thought it was cool to have an apartment swimming pool. I never said I intentionally wanted to go back to his place, it was just that he suggested something that I thought would be great to see. I never purposely put myself in that position. Paper, no one forced you to go there, REGARDLESS of the reason. You put yourself there. You and only you. Really, start taking some responsibility. And what man is going to show a girl on the first date anything if he's not interested in her?? You are not that naive. SG - There is no way I'm turning into Paper. I don't make lame excuses for my behavior, I accept responsibility for my actions, and I don't keep stringing guys along. Further more, I'm willing to take advice from people, instead of posting for attention.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 So sad. Another lie!!!! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=2177803&postcount=74 You knew FULL WELL what you were doing, going back to his place to watch TV and eat takeout. "See his swimming pool?" Yeah, right. Because I didn't write it down. He mentioned swimming pool, so we checked it out. Then we head to his apartment where he showed me his skyline view, and he put on Andrei whatever on the tv. He made mention of sushi takeout, but I didn't want any so we just had a little appetizer and conversation that I tried to start, but he got frisky with me. Did I mention I'm a terrible writer? I'm always inconsistent in my writing because I have no patience to write out everything.
dreamergrl Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 SG, I'm inconsistent because I post when my emotions runs rampant. They affect my writings to a degree. I'm sorry to have confused you, yet I still feel the need to clear the air with you. Earlier in the year, I had a fling with my ex, which broke off because he was cheating with me on his gf. After that, I haven't dated until I met Artist guy. It was instant attraction on my part, and giving him blowjobs is and was in a way to get his validation. Then I started multidating, because Artist guy and I weren't exclusive, which resulted in me dating guys I have no attractions towards (namely V) and finding myself back with Artist guy. So you understand my dilemma at that time? I wanted a relationship with Artist guy but he told me he didn't see things going anywhere, thus, I ceased contact, and here I am spending the past weekend alone, and dateless. Ha, in another post you claimed you didn't know these were dates. You said you were just 'hanging out'. Make up your mind!
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Paper, no one forced you to go there, REGARDLESS of the reason. You put yourself there. You and only you. Really, start taking some responsibility. And what man is going to show a girl on the first date anything if he's not interested in her?? You are not that naive. SG - There is no way I'm turning into Paper. I don't make lame excuses for my behavior, I accept responsibility for my actions, and I don't keep stringing guys along. Further more, I'm willing to take advice from people, instead of posting for attention. I actually am. I don't have much dating experience, hence I can be a pushover at times. That's why I have a hard time saying no to people sometimes. And I don't expect you to turn into me Dreamer, you have enough problems as is.
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