Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Weren't you at his house like 2 days later, trying to tell everyone how you might want him as a booty call? You go from one extreme to the next. First giving head on the second date, then getting grossed out by someone trying to kiss you. Its nonsensical, and I wonder if its really just a cry for attention. I think everyone has their timelines wrong. When did I go to his house like 2 days later? I haven't seen him since I asked him about where everything is going. That was two Fridays ago. I deleted his number, haven't talked with him, haven't seen him, haven't even contacted him.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 I don't want to kick you when you're down, but you should understand that to most guys Kizik's sarcasm is quite funny. Look at this objectively for a minute. It's socially accepted that guys are the ones that are tasked with starting relationships. Then look at your actions: you, though inadvertently, misled him into thinking you came back to his place for something. Then after you rebuff him, instead of talking to him and being straight with him, you simply ignore him. You don't want him to contact you. You can either own this and tell him you are not interested, or you can go about avoiding your life and play the victim. If you choose the latter route, don't be surprised when someone calls you on it. You especially shouldn't be surprised when it's a guy as every guy has certainly been on the other side of this. I didn't misled him into thinking anything. We met at barnes and nobles and I suggested we go for a walk, but he walked me to his apartment saying that he wants me to look at his swimming pool. So I thought oh swimming pool in an apartment building, awesome, so I went. I didn't expect him to be so hands on that's all. I was trying to be discreet as possible changing the topics of conversation just so we can have fillers for company as opposed to just watching tv.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 She tends to forget that her threads remain here forever.... So then reread the threads if you want to. Obviously you guys have things mixed up.
kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I'm new here, so I don't know the history. Spark Notes anyone? haha
BCCA Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I think everyone has their timelines wrong. When did I go to his house like 2 days later? I haven't seen him since I asked him about where everything is going. That was two Fridays ago. I deleted his number, haven't talked with him, haven't seen him, haven't even contacted him. Since you finally had yet another round of unfulfilled sex with him, followed by a confirmation that he was in fact not interested (which was obvious), then maybe yes, that could be the last time. But dont pretend like you didnt go back to him 2-3 times, knowing all it was going to be was him getting off and going to bed. And you also tried to pretend that YOU were the one looking for a booty call, when that was not true. Listen, why are you even posting this? Youre being immature and just ignoring the guy, and then you wonder why he doesnt get it. Get what? He isnt getting anything from you, and instead of just saying 'hey not interested, bye' youre just ignoring him because I think you like having someone to turn down or feel too good for.
carhill Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 For reference: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t188955/?highlight=lawyer OK.... OP, V contacted you via text. Unwelcome contact. Appropriate response? Silence sandwich. He didn't call; he didn't show up on your doorstep; he didn't do all the manly and correct things a lawyer of his stature should do. He behaved now, just as in the past, as a teenager. What is the response. Repeat after me.... Man that was one heckuva night.....
BubblyPopcorn Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 As The World Turns.......... These are the Days of Our Lives..... Guiding Light anyone?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 I think what some are trying to point out, is that you are mocking someone who is clearly interested in you, and you are specifically mocking him for BEING interested in you. And, it's a regular pattern for you. How you would you feel if Art Guy went on a public message forum and publicized every single intimate detail of the two of you and then he mocked your interest in him? "Yeah this paper girl cooks me dinner and gives me a BJ every time she comes over but ewe I’m disgusted because she likes me".......... No, I'm not mocking him for being interested in me, that's not my intention. We only went on one date, and after that, we didn't have any further contact. That was about three weeks ago I think. So why would he all of a sudden decide to text me again out of the blue and wanting to meet me? That's the point I was getting at. If someone was interested, he would pursue right? But we haven't talked at all, so why would he just start messaging me? That why I think he's a creep. Simply because he messages me out of the blue with a smiley face and says he wants to see me again.
zhsoj Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I didn't misled him into thinking anything. We met at barnes and nobles and I suggested we go for a walk, but he walked me to his apartment saying that he wants me to look at his swimming pool. So I thought oh swimming pool in an apartment building, awesome, so I went. I didn't expect him to be so hands on that's all. I was trying to be discreet as possible changing the topics of conversation just so we can have fillers for company as opposed to just watching tv. Well in that case he was pretty damn brazen for a first date... Then again he is a lawyer. Still: own this. If you haven't told him in no uncertain terms that you aren't interested, then do so. If he still bugs you he's an ass and THEN you can come here and curse him out. I'll take your side then. Until then I'm far too familiar with the woman "letting me down nicely" to find your reaction anything but slightly amusing.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 For reference: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t188955/?highlight=lawyer OK.... OP, V contacted you via text. Unwelcome contact. Appropriate response? Silence sandwich. He didn't call; he didn't show up on your doorstep; he didn't do all the manly and correct things a lawyer of his stature should do. He behaved now, just as in the past, as a teenager. What is the response. Repeat after me.... Man that was one heckuva night..... Thanks Carhill for the reference. That was the night I had the date with V, but I ended up going to see Artist guy. But that was the second to last time I actually saw artist guy, a week before I actually confronted him on where things were going. Does that make sense at all? I wasn't even expecting a second date with V anyways, so I just let things go. And then a week later I stopped talking to artist guy.
BCCA Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Well in that case he was pretty damn brazen for a first date... Then again he is a lawyer. Still: own this. If you haven't told him in no uncertain terms that you aren't interested, then do so. If he still bugs you he's an ass and THEN you can come here and curse him out. I'll take your side then. Until then I'm far too familiar with the woman "letting me down nicely" to find your reaction anything but slightly amusing. What I find especially amusing is that she apparently wants him to leave her alone, but wont just say that. She says hes a creep, but wont tell him to shove off. See what Im getting at here? I think she really just likes feeling like 'omg look at this poor loser nipping at my heels, look everyone - men like me!'.
Star Gazer Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Since you finally had yet another round of unfulfilled sex with him, followed by a confirmation that he was in fact not interested (which was obvious), then maybe yes, that could be the last time. But dont pretend like you didnt go back to him 2-3 times, knowing all it was going to be was him getting off and going to bed. And you also tried to pretend that YOU were the one looking for a booty call, when that was not true. Listen, why are you even posting this? Youre being immature and just ignoring the guy, and then you wonder why he doesnt get it. Get what? He isnt getting anything from you, and instead of just saying 'hey not interested, bye' youre just ignoring him because I think you like having someone to turn down or feel too good for. Applause. No, I'm not mocking him for being interested in me, that's not my intention. We only went on one date, and after that, we didn't have any further contact. That was about three weeks ago I think. So why would he all of a sudden decide to text me again out of the blue and wanting to meet me? That's the point I was getting at. If someone was interested, he would pursue right? But we haven't talked at all, so why would he just start messaging me? That why I think he's a creep. Simply because he messages me out of the blue with a smiley face and says he wants to see me again. Why is he contacting you? Because he thinks you're the type of girl he can hookup with, and then not contact for a while, and then contact when he's ready to hook up again. That doesn't make him a creep, it's just what his expectations are given your interactions.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Well in that case he was pretty damn brazen for a first date... Then again he is a lawyer. Still: own this. If you haven't told him in no uncertain terms that you aren't interested, then do so. If he still bugs you he's an ass and THEN you can come here and curse him out. I'll take your side then. Until then I'm far too familiar with the woman "letting me down nicely" to find your reaction anything but slightly amusing. I did make myself pretty clear, when I didn't return any of his texts. I wasn't even being nice, I pretty much disappeared on him. I wasn't even planning on letting him down nicely. His behaviour was unacceptable to me so I don't feel the need to actually tell him to go to hell. That's 10 cents per text.
Star Gazer Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 What I find especially amusing is that she apparently wants him to leave her alone, but wont just say that. She says hes a creep, but wont tell him to shove off. See what Im getting at here? I think she really just likes feeling like 'omg look at this poor loser nipping at my heels, look everyone - men like me!'. Agreed. One of her recent threads had a similar tone. There too, I indicated that I believed she was seeking validation. Paper.... straight up: Despite the fact you need it, you don't want help. You don't. You want validation. Clearly, we can't help you with either.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 What I find especially amusing is that she apparently wants him to leave her alone, but wont just say that. She says hes a creep, but wont tell him to shove off. See what Im getting at here? I think she really just likes feeling like 'omg look at this poor loser nipping at my heels, look everyone - men like me!'. BCCA, three weeks of no contact and you would still try to ask out a girl?
BobSacamento Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I think this is bottled up anger from him not calling you after the first date. Your defense mechanism is to ridicule him for making a move on a first date.
kizik Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Paper.... straight up: Despite the fact you need it, you don't want help. You don't. You want validation. Clearly, we can't help you with either. ***This***
Star Gazer Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 That's 10 cents per text. That's a pathetic excuse. You'd rather save TEN CENTS and continue to whine about him and name call, then have the decency to tell him you're not interested? *sigh*
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Whoa BCCA , you got two people mixed up. The person that's contacting me now is not artist guy, it's the lawyer guy. I never strung him along, after the date, we stopped communicating. The guy I did have sex with, the second time around, yeah I asked him the next day about where things were going. When he told me that it was going nowhere, that was it, I ceased contact. You have everything mixed. He haven't contacted me at all, and neither have I him.
Star Gazer Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I think this is bottled up anger from him not calling you after the first date. Your defense mechanism is to ridicule him for making a move on a first date. Great point, and I agree.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 I think this is bottled up anger from him not calling you after the first date. Your defense mechanism is to ridicule him for making a move on a first date. No, if he had called me, I wouldn't even pick up. He texted me though, but I didn't respond. Honestly I wasn't interested. I have no bottled up anger towards him. Just an aversion.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Applause. Why is he contacting you? Because he thinks you're the type of girl he can hookup with, and then not contact for a while, and then contact when he's ready to hook up again. That doesn't make him a creep, it's just what his expectations are given your interactions. SG, I did not hook up with V.
Star Gazer Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 No, if he had called me, I wouldn't even pick up. He texted me though, but I didn't respond. Honestly I wasn't interested. I have no bottled up anger towards him. Just an aversion. Nope. I think you were insulted that the guy who allegedly repulsed you (lawyer guy) didn't call after the date. It was a blow to the ego. Now that he IS trying to contact you, you've taken up mocking him, for a ridiculous, and very HYPOCRITICAL reason.
BobSacamento Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 No, if he had called me, I wouldn't even pick up. He texted me though, but I didn't respond. Honestly I wasn't interested. I have no bottled up anger towards him. Just an aversion. That is odd though. 3 weeks with no contact and then all of a sudden to make contact. Perhaps he was multidating and got a little serious with someone else. I don't think you have to Text him back, do whatever you want. I mean hell 3 days is too long. When did he get your number btw? I hope it wasn't at the end of the date cause that's a big time mix signal.
Star Gazer Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 SG, I did not hook up with V. I don't believe you.
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