The parenting plan?

[Jdw_Icequeen]

I have been posting in my "Having trouble with NC".

 

I was on day 4 and day 5 it broke. You can read more about it there to get the gest of it.

 

Alot of the people here can have a clean break. I know now I have to do LC instead of NC. I am wondering how many of you out there that have kids have handled it and how things have been going for you.

 

He lives 3 hours away and I refuse to see him but feel selfish for keeping him from the kids. What do I do? He has no money to take them out he would have to sit here and see the kids. If he drove 3 hours he probably would NOT want to just leave but stay the night. I so can't handle that.

 

I suppose I could stay somwhere else, if he was here. But it would feel like he was kicking out of my house. I would love to hear how parents have delt with this. Thank you

[muhlissah]

I'm still new to all of this as I am only going on 4 weeks of being separated. We have yet to start NC but we do have an 11 month old. Now my soon to be ex lives a block away but he does come here every day to see our son. On "his" days he takes him to where he is staying at for a few hours and then brings him back. On my days he still comes and he just hangs out here. It is very hard on me, but I am not going to keep them apart. Can he not take them to the park or something? I have spent time in my room watching tv when my husband was here. I had thought about leaving but I too felt like I'd be kicked out of my home. Up until now my husband was even staying one night of the week on my couch to stay over night with my son. He got a crib over the weekend so tonight is my first night away from my son. Its really whatever you feel comfortable with. You dont have to have conversation with him just because he's there. I'm sure my way of doing things isn't the great advice but I do what works for us. It will change once I move but that isn't for a month. Once I move he will have my son 2 days a week and every other weekend. Good luck with whatever you decide.