BackonTrack2 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Hello All, Long story short, my first relationship ended 15 months ago. Situation Ex started distancing herself, acting strange, I noticed it but didn't understand what was going on. Come to find out she was cheating on me. Her best friend told on her. I was hurt and destroyed for about a good 10 months, in that time, I became depressed, lost my apartment, car, business & money. It was a slow progression. I moved back home to my mother's house and I started getting better. I met someone and we are together now about 4 or 5 months. She claims I was broken but now I'm better. During this last year, I have not contacted my EX and she has not contacted me. (thats a lie, I texted her ONCE - she never responded) Now that I look back at the entire ordeal I'm like "WOW, your head was pretty messed up, she hurt you pretty darn good" Its been 4 months and I haven't even looked at her FB. I don't feel the need anymore. When I look at her picture now... I just feel sorry for whomever she's with......
NopeNah Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I can relate to the "feeling sorry for whoever she's with"! Haha poor guy has NO idea what he's in for when the true her comes out!
iBelieve In Symmetry Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 So it DOES end?! The bad feelings, the temptation to talk to her, everything?! Yay! Talk about good news! Good post! But... I was always afraid that she was only a horrible girlfriend to me and that she was going to be a great girlfriend to someone else. This fear goes away, too, right? I mean, thinking logically I doubt this is so. I was always her support system and the one to help her get psychiatric help, etc. And since we've broken up she's been HORRIBLY failing school, doing drugs, and God knows what else. This proves her bipolar disorder is certainly not being taken care of since we broke up and on top of that I know she's the cheating type. Sooo, at first she might seem like a good girlfriend to whomever, but I know for a fact once you get closer to her, she'll snap the trap. Back on track, though, does the fear go away?
thegoodlife Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 Slowly but surely it goes away. You may fall further down the black hole at first, but eventually you will rise up again. I know for me after my first serious relationship ended I was on the ground for a good year before I even started to move forward again with my life. I literally spent everyday obsessing over what went wrong, and when, and what could I have done differently, and why didn't I see it coming, and all the pain anger and humiliation that comes with being cheated on. Feeling like you're not good enough, it must be something wrong with YOU etc. It can be hell, but you can be sure that in the end you're much stronger and better off without them. BackOnTrack2- glad to hear you're still going strong and seeing someone else now. Keep it up, sending contined happiness and success wishes your way. And iBelieve In Symmetry- the fear eventually goes away too. It gets to the point where you don't even care. It's like they say the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. And there probably will be someone out there whom she is a great girlfriend to. Just like if you were a sh*tty bf to her, does that mean you will be a sh*tty bf to every other girl you ever dated? Of course not. I would hope that over time she matures enough to change. And I believe that there's someone for everyone, and she just wasn't the one for you.
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