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As I've mentioned before, I am seeing two girls right now. How it happened is a bit of a messed up situation, but I digress. Bottom line is that I started seeing these two girls at roughly the same time. Anyway, one is 7 years younger, and the other is 2 years younger. (Im 30) The younger one is becoming attatched and I'm pretty sure she is in love with me. I've noticed a few times recently when she wanted to say it, but didn't. Instead, she said that she would "marry me one day". Yep, too soon to be talking like that. I have dated her for 6 weeks, and the older one for 4 weeks.

 

The younger one was dating around a bit when we first met, so I did the same. I already was anyway, so I didn't do it just because she was. During this time, the older one (previously just a friend) and I started seeing eachother. The older one knows of the younger one, but the younger one doesn't know about the older one. However, she suspects I am still dating around. I didn't see this situation coming, but it is what happened.

 

So my situation is one where I have EQUAL feelings for both. All things considered, it is a dead even tie in my book. But I can't go on like this forever. My question is... what is a normal timeframe for couples to become exclusive? I'm thinking about two months, in which case my time is running out. Does anyone have an opinion on this? I'm usually a one girl at a time kinda guy, so this is new territory for me. They are both hinting that I need to decide... and soon.

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There's no timeframe/limit for becoming exclusive (or not), but since both girls are hinting that they want a commitment from you, well there's your timeframe.

 

I understand you have feelings for both girls...but from reading your other thread, to be honest, I wouldn't choose either of them.

 

Just my $.02.

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That's an option too. Part of me just wants to run away from this situation alltogether. Why is it when you aren't looking for a relationship, nor necessarily want one, that one finds you? Or two for that matter? I have no one to blame but myself, so I'm going to try to do the right thing. Thanks for the reply.

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