SBG04 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 So we have been broken up for a while now (about 9 months), but I only moved out 2 weeks ago. We were together for over 5 years and were engaged. She broke up with me. They are you're facts. I feel that I have so much I want to tell her still. I feel this need to inform her of my theories of what went wrong (which we have not really discussed), and also address a few of the points or questions she has raised over the last little while. Admittedly these questions were probably more retorical. I have therefore written a letter addressing all these things, getting them off my chest. It's not an angry or i want you back type letter. It just explains my rational and thinking. I know her reading this letter is not going to bring her back, so I figure just drop it, leave it unsent and get on with life. But I am for some reason obsessed with sharing this information and feel like I will be more comfortable knowing she knows my theories. It really is chewing me up. I can't drop it. I don't think I can do it in person as she does not seem to want to discuss a lot of the topics, so a letter is my only way. Has anyone else been in this situation? Should I send it?
loveshy Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Dont send letters... They didn't work for me... and made things work... So the thing is to go out of contact and heal relationships are not about logic they are about feelings..
lonelygurl Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 So we have been broken up for a while now (about 9 months), but I only moved out 2 weeks ago. We were together for over 5 years and were engaged. She broke up with me. They are you're facts. I feel that I have so much I want to tell her still. I feel this need to inform her of my theories of what went wrong (which we have not really discussed), and also address a few of the points or questions she has raised over the last little while. Admittedly these questions were probably more retorical. I have therefore written a letter addressing all these things, getting them off my chest. It's not an angry or i want you back type letter. It just explains my rational and thinking. I know her reading this letter is not going to bring her back, so I figure just drop it, leave it unsent and get on with life. But I am for some reason obsessed with sharing this information and feel like I will be more comfortable knowing she knows my theories. It really is chewing me up. I can't drop it. I don't think I can do it in person as she does not seem to want to discuss a lot of the topics, so a letter is my only way. Has anyone else been in this situation? Should I send it? If it will make you feel better to send the letter, than send it. I sent a long letter the first time my X left. This time I was so hurt and angry most of the stuff I sent wasn't so nice, but I didn't do a long letter pouring out my heart. I would have like to, and still think about it, but I will never do it now. He left and didn't want to be with me so it really doesn't matter how I feel about him now. What have you got to lose by sending the letter?
loveshy Posted June 3, 2009 Posted June 3, 2009 I still won't suggest sending a letter... If you try a letter you will end up convincing her with the breakup... Dont talk about anything... Let her miss you...
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