isthmus Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 I'm sure you've gotten NC suggestions up the ass and I'm assuming this is all brand new, happened very recently to you so I'm not going to force that on you. But I will suggest coming on here a lot, it really does help get motivated to start NC and as soon as you do (well not as soon as you do but give it time), things will get lighter. It's easier to focus on your life when you aren't focused on someone else's. And it's a lot easier to focus on the positive. NC is the fastest and most painless way to heal. I've actually had mixed advice... some friends have told me I should keep contact because he is worth having as a friend. It was a mutual break up, and one without anger or hurtful words. We have been really kind to each other the whole way through and he is just someone I can't imagine living my life without... in at least one form or another. I guess I'm reluctant to go NC in case I lose him forever. I keep thinking I'll get over the fact he's found someone else, and it'll hurt less and less with time... i just have to push myself through these initial hard stages. When we broke up, we both felt like we made the right decision, and neither of us regretted it. We remained best friends (mistake!) and people thought we were still together by the way we interacted with each other. Its only when he told me he met someone did the unbearable pain kick in. I guess i've convinced myself this is all just jealousy that will go away soon.... I mean if I was fine with our break up before she came along, it must just be a case of wanting something i can't have right? Hence why im reluctant to go NC... i feel like its just a phase that i'll get over and its not worth risking our friendship over. But who knows... today i'm feeling more positive than usual :S
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