t0ri Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 So I've been hanging out with an old friend that I've known for a few years, but lost touch with since dating my ex for the past 2 years. The old friend, John, and I have had a blast together, and have kissed the past 3 or 4 times we've hung out, nothing more. He had a graduation party the other night that I went to, and he and I were affection with each other during the party, in front of people. Well John's friend, Chris, saw John hugging me and stuff, and told him, "Dude this girl is AMAZING," referring to me. Then John disappeared awhile later and it turned out he was in his bedroom with another girl who he says is his "best friend" and he was "cheering her up." The girl does have a boyfriend, but it was weird that John went in the bedroom with her for at least 20 minutes, especially with me there after he and I had just been kissing and such. Anyway, while John was in the bedroom, Chris asked me for my number. I gave it to him, but now I'm wondering if that was a bad idea. He text me immediately after I gave it to him, while standing a few feet away at the party, and told me I was cute and not to leave because he wanted to hang out more. I ended up leaving because I was a little irritated John was in the bedroom with some girl. I don't know if I should trust that he truly was just having a talk with the girl. John has been pursuing me since before my ex and I got together, and immediately after we broke up. He acts like he's extremely interested in me, and always wants to hang out. I know he is a good guy, but I'm not sure if I trust his story. If he was hooking up with the girl, I'd not waste any more time on him. My friend told me to not hang out with him again after the party incident, and another told me to give him the benefit of the doubt. Should I trust his word? And if I do trust John's word and continue what he and I are doing, then what do I do about his friend? Chris has been texting me the past two nights, since the party, but just as casual talk. (John also texts me every day). I'm pretty sure Chris saw that I was at that party "with" John, kissing and being affectionate!!! So why would he text me telling me not to leave so we could hang out? Is this weird? And I have no idea if John knows that Chris is texting me, so should I tell him or stop talking to Chris, or do nothing? And by the way, John text me after I left saying that he wasn't doing anything with the girl, he was really disappointed he didn't get to spend more time with me, how beautiful I looked, etc. Then he text me early the next morning asking me to text him when I woke up. I did, and he apologized for the "confusion" the night before and again said he wished he had gotten to spend more time with me. He then asked when he could see me next. I think he's being honest, but just thought I'd get some opinions.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 OK, so since you ignored what I said in the last post: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2200079#post2200079 I will post the same damn thing again, but I'm not wasting my time re-wording it like you did your post. Well, how long did you expect him to wait for you to "come around?" I don't think it matters what he was doing. You were pretty clear with your behavior that you didn't want him. He made it obvious that your hot/cold routine wasn't to his liking. At that point, you should have done something. Not waited until he pulled this stunt. Now, I don't think he was just cheering up a friend - I think he was trying to make you jealous. Well played, John. But really - you rejected him. What did you expect? Why in the hell do people DO this? The first post wasn't good enough?
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 As for the added info about Chris. Maybe he knows his friend better than you do and knows he's no longer really interested in you. He saw his buddy move on to another chick, he swooped in for the kill.
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