mogul Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 So attempting to set up a day with this woman. Asked her to dinner this week, and she told me she would be out on a business trip this week (her company sends her out randomly on trips so not a lie) but that she would give me a call when she gets back. Keep in mind, i got her number not too long ago and we have a few brief convos via phone. We have tried setting up meetings and she seems interested and genuinely want to go but last minute excuses comes up but she is always apologetic and would suggest another day immediately. For what its worth, i knew she was really attracted to be and would give subtle hints. The fact that she could of easily said "sorry, busy" or "out of town for work, maybe some other time.." but instead specifically said she would call me when she gets back mean anything? super over analyzing because im the one that usually gets my way or feels in control when it comes to games or dictating dates/times. -Do women usually say they'll call you and dont? It would be a good week before she gets back and even then im not sure if or when she will call back. My pride says to drop her, but I really need to get the last word in with her or be the one to end on my terms and leave intact with diginity and pride. Does it mean anything she reschedules and apologetic or says she'll "call" me when she gets back. Is she just stringing me along or too nice to just say she is not interested? I would much rather her ignore me, tell me shes not intersted, or say shes busy and let me know when shes free rather than this where i am just plain confused. chances that she will actually call ? Thanks, semi long post. All responses are very helpful and much appricated.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Who the hell knows? Every woman is different. I personally would not tell a guy that I'd call him if I didn't intend to. Or if I had second thoughts AFTER telling him I'd call (meaning I decided I didn't want to), I'd probably email/message him to tell him I couldn't do it. This is right up there with asking "What is on her mind?" Unless she frequents this board, nobody can really answer that question. But if she said she'd call you and she doesn't, I'd write this one off as "not interested." I hate it when people drop off the face of the planet to show lack of interest - I just straight-up TELL someone.
MineThatBird Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 No matter how much a woman will like a man, she will seldom/ never bend over backwards to win a man over, whereas in that same spirit, a man will nearly humiliate himself to win a woman over. If she does want to spend time with you, she'll make the effort to do so regardless of whatever is going on in her life. At this point, it seems she'd like to maintain her integrity and self-righteousness by making herself unavailable.
Author mogul Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 No matter how much a woman will like a man, she will seldom/ never bend over backwards to win a man over, whereas in that same spirit, a man will nearly humiliate himself to win a woman over. If she does want to spend time with you, she'll make the effort to do so regardless of whatever is going on in her life. At this point, it seems she'd like to maintain her integrity and self-righteousness by making herself unavailable. How does her not calling me *if she decides not to* have anything with maintaining her integrity and self-righteousness?
MineThatBird Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 How does her not calling me *if she decides not to* have anything with maintaining her integrity and self-righteousness? There are three types of people: yes, no and maybe. Because I'm not in your shoes, from here it seems as if she's a maybe because she's coming up with last minute excuses. She does not want to be labeled as "mean/ rude/ etc." and I suppose she is trying to politely decline you as kindly as possible by hoping that you'd just "get it". Like I said, I'm not in your shoes so I'm just speculating. Let's hope I'm incorrect about this one.
robinincarolina Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 You lost control when you put the ball in her court about the calling. Call me old fashioned, but since when did the man wait around on the woman to call? Some women just won't call men or don't feel comfortable with it. I know I don't. Women like to be sought after in a fun, playful manner. Stop stressing. You have her number, be creative and find a way to put the ball back in your court.
Author mogul Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Im not sure, maybe im being overly optimistic but my rationale is that she could of just been saying shes out of town this week instead of specifically saying she'll call when she gets back? For the ladies, if you were not interested in someone would you say you would call them and not or just be vauge to blow them off?
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