kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Ok, I'll tell the full story. Don't judge me, I meet plenty of girls in real life. Two months ago I met a girl on a forum, not that different from this one. We hit it off and chatted everyday. For a few weeks, when she was relatively new to the forum, we would talk everyday for hours. I remember one weekend when we talked, on the phone and over msn, for about 25 hours. I thought I had found someone special. Then she became more and more popular on this forum, and after I left, she became the most popular person on this website. Since then, our interactions have become less and less. Maybe an innocent chat over facebook or a brief 30 minute chat on msn. I recently started feeling that she was using me. Whenever we talked, she would always mention being bored or having nothing to do. It hit me today that I was just her entertainment. All of those times she said she liked me, found me cute, wanted to meet me, considered dating me, all of those things were just lies to keep her occupied...but that was just me being paranoid, right? So, I messaged her on facebook saying, "can we talk? it will only take 10-15 minutes tops...I won't bother you too much...". She didn't even respond. 20 minutes later, she updated her status as, "don't even care." Wtf do I do? She's all I knew for the past two months. I'm so emotionally invested in her, it's crazy. I'm only 16, so that explains my inexperience in cold-hearted bitches. How do I move on? or do I even move on...I still care about her... why did she do this to me?
BobSacamento Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 You lack confidence. Your basically telling her she's doing you a favor just standing to hear what you have to say. Your goal is to be charming not to sound like a, for lack of a better word, wiener.
lora22 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Sucks man, and I can't tell you why. Is this the girl you were texting or someone else? This is just what I would do, but she "doesn't even care"? Well guess what, neither do I! I'm just proud and stubborn, but seriously, if someone did that to be and was such a d*ck about it, I would be way too proud and pissed to try to ever contact that person again, or waste too much time thinking about him. Sucks, cuz I understand you want answers. If your Sat. night date girl is someone aside from this azzhole, focus on flirting with her, or meeting someone else. Don't waste your time on someone who's such a douche, and couldn't care less.
Author kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Yeah, this isn't the saturday night girl. I honestly want to cry because no one has ever taken advantage of me like this. I'm a good ****ing guy. What did I do to deserve this? I STAYED UP UNTIL 4AM TALKING TO HER ****KKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKkk We always joked about how similar we were......**** that
lora22 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 What did I do to deserve this? Now that's just the wrong perspective/attitude. You're mad and hurt - get rid of some of that negative energy by going for a run, or a swim, or beating the crap out of a punching bag, or cleaning the house reeeaaallly well (your parents will love that one ). Allow yourself to feel mad and hurt and whatever else, but focus all of that energy into something active. That helps me get over things. And then move on. She obviously doesn't deserve someone like you, because she doesn't know how to treat others well herself. So forget her, she's the one who's screwed in the long run. Sat. night girl sounds fun and nice - little racy for 16, but I was a prude in high school, still am a little
carhill Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 If a lady here starts talking to me offline (meaning off the forum), I go right for the meet, no matter where on earth she is. Electrons are worthless for human relations. Eye contact and pressing flesh is (the goal), no matter if it's just a friendship-type thing. OP, the next time such a thing happens for you, do not invest yourself in anything online. Phone number, then talk, then, if you enjoy each other on the phone, arrange for a meeting somewhere, preferably in a neutral place. BTW, I learned this after many years of making similar mistakes....
Author kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 **** she messaged me. Doesn't know why I'm upset. I swear to god, if she tries to win me back, I'm going to ****ing flip.
Author kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 and thank you lora and carhill I appreciate your words of wisdom. Saturday night girl is fantastic haha
lora22 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 **** she messaged me. Doesn't know why I'm upset. I swear to god, if she tries to win me back, I'm going to ****ing flip. Don't give her the chance to try is my advice. She's shown you how she is, move on!
Author kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 but what if she's her adorable self and explains it really nicely and I start thinking I like her again and then I can't help but not talk to her and then I turn into a teenage girl She's a drug, mannnn
Author kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 lora, quick question: have you ever laughed while crying? that just happened. it's a weird feeling.
lora22 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 lora, quick question: have you ever laughed while crying? that just happened. it's a weird feeling. Haha, just once that I can think of...I'm not much of a crier, except when I laugh til I cry, which happens a lot
carhill Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I cry while laughing at the absurdity of it all. Tell her you'll be in her city on Saturday and you want to meet up for drinks. LOL.
lora22 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 but what if she's her adorable self and explains it really nicely and I start thinking I like her again and then I can't help but not talk to her and then I turn into a teenage girl She's a drug, mannnn That's when you remind yourself what an evil b*tch she is (remember her actions!!), and recall how incredible and fun Sat. night girl is @the turning into a girl
mixwell Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 lora, quick question: have you ever laughed while crying? that just happened. it's a weird feeling. Just trying to be real whether its chatting online or IRL you reek of desperation. Dude its a chick over the internet.. Grow a pair of balls and get your head on straight.. Just stop contacting her and let her persue you.
lora22 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I cry while laughing at the absurdity of it all. Tell her you'll be in her city on Saturday and you want to meet up for drinks. LOL. Yeah, that too
Author kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 ok, I replied to her message really bluntly. then I thought, "but we care about each other, why would I be so mean?" so then I sent her a carefully worded one page email. I regret doing that. Oh, side note. Out of rage, I signed up for the website again and started this thread on homophobia, saying how much I hate it. She responded and I sort of bashed her in it. She asked me if I'm that person. I have a feeling a moderator is going to tell her it's me. I really don't want this to end that way. I hate the internet.
Author kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Just trying to be real whether its chatting online or IRL you reek of desperation. Dude its a chick over the internet.. Grow a pair of balls and get your head on straight.. Just stop contacting her and let her persue you. And? I care about her. She's moving back to my area in two months and we've talked about going out with each other. Easier said than done. When someone becomes such a part of your life that you can't function properly without talking to them, it's hard to rip them out all of a sudden. Reminder, I'm 16. This stuff is supposed to reek of desperation.
lora22 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Reminder, I'm 16. This stuff is supposed to reek of desperation. I hope you at least listen to emo and not Kelly Clarkson
carhill Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 OMG, 16? Push back from the computer and hit on some local girls.....
lora22 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 OMG, 16? Push back from the computer and hit on some local girls..... Yeah, like Sat. night girl!! I'm rooting for her!
Author kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 You haven't even heard about law class girl...oh, man, she's a dandy Blonde, blue eyes, smart, funny, and, best of all, into me ;D
mixwell Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 And? I care about her. She's moving back to my area in two months and we've talked about going out with each other. Easier said than done. When someone becomes such a part of your life that you can't function properly without talking to them, it's hard to rip them out all of a sudden. Reminder, I'm 16. This stuff is supposed to reek of desperation. Easier said than done huh ? Let me tell you a story.. I was with my ex for 7 years since we were 14 until I was about 21. (26 now).. Talk about REALLY loving caring for a chick huh ? I stopped talking to her because I moved outta state and she started seeing someone else.. TRUST me I've been there x10 bro I know EXACTLY what you're goin through in real life with a REAL long term relationship. What I'm trying to say is that I have been through WORSE than your condition and soo have many other and the best advice I/we can give is to stop wasting energy on her.. Dude if you can realize these things sooner at a teen level than later from experience you will be MAD strong as a person. **One thing I will say and it happened to me, is no matter how much someone from outside perspective has good advice to give you, you will not follow until you realize** in retrospect I would've listened to all the advice given to me but when feelings are involved I know its hard to make logical choices so trust me I know what you're going through and the best ADVICE I can give is to stop contacting her and trying to play detective and figure out why she did what and IF she contacts you what it really means.. Bro you will kill yourself wondering the whys, what ifs and what does this mean.. One day you HOPEFULLY will get it and the sooner you do the better of a person you will be.. I have it down to a T now even though I've been with women I really care about sometimes you have to say F*k your mind and TRY to not emotions make your decisions although it is hard so understand if you don't follow the advice given to you.. GL man !! Good to experience it now in this situation than with a girl you know in person and REALLY love.. No offense..
Author kostoronto Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 OMG, 16? Push back from the computer and hit on some local girls..... I hope you at least listen to emo and not Kelly Clarkson Kanye West...hahaha but Eminem has been on loop for the past 2 hours. "BUT DON'T LET 'EM SAY YOU AIN'T BEAUTIFUL...THEY CAN ALL GET ****ED JUST STAY TRUE TO YOUUUUU" hahaha maybe I should be listening to emo...
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