netwizard Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Hello everyone! My girlfriend and I live 50 miles apart; it takes me an hour to two hours to get there. She has the ability to drive but her parents (shes 21 & I'm 20) won't let her and she's fearful of driving on the freeway. We've been dating for 7 months or so and I made it clear to her I want some sort of sexual contact before marriage. I'm not asking for sex but little things like oral and touching would make our relationship stronger I think. However, when I try to do those things she seems ashamed to do it. It sounds crazy but, I believe we're meant to be together at such a young age but I'm not getting what I want; now I'm thinking, I want to have a sex life before and after marriage but if she won't do it now, then what? Any advice would be appreciated!
xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Hello everyone! My girlfriend and I live 50 miles apart; it takes me an hour to two hours to get there. She has the ability to drive but her parents (shes 21 & I'm 20) won't let her and she's fearful of driving on the freeway. We've been dating for 7 months or so and I made it clear to her I want some sort of sexual contact before marriage. I'm not asking for sex but little things like oral and touching would make our relationship stronger I think. However, when I try to do those things she seems ashamed to do it. It sounds crazy but, I believe we're meant to be together at such a young age but I'm not getting what I want; now I'm thinking, I want to have a sex life before and after marriage but if she won't do it now, then what? Any advice would be appreciated! This is not a long distance problem but more of a what's her view on marriage problem. Is she religious? Is she Christian?
Author netwizard Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 This is not a long distance problem but more of a what's her view on marriage problem. Is she religious? Is she Christian? Hmmm...difficult question. My parents are Catholic and I'm Atheist. Her parents are Buddhist but she doesn't practice it in a way. Its more cultural, its deemed shameful to have any sexual relations before marriage in the Vietnamese culture. I'm Filipino and its the same for my culture but I don't give much thought into it as she does.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Hmmm...difficult question. My parents are Catholic and I'm Atheist. Her parents are Buddhist but she doesn't practice it in a way. Its more cultural, its deemed shameful to have any sexual relations before marriage in the Vietnamese culture. I'm Filipino and its the same for my culture but I don't give much thought into it as she does. Ahh traditionalists. You won't change her mind on it because she was brought up with a view that sex before marriage is bad. Maybe you should get another gf, because you don't seem like the kind of guy who would wait until after marriage.
Author netwizard Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 Ahh traditionalists. You won't change her mind on it because she was brought up with a view that sex before marriage is bad. Maybe you should get another gf, because you don't seem like the kind of guy who would wait until after marriage. First, we love each other & I don't think anything will ever change that. Second, I can wait for the actual sex after marriage. Its just that the lack of sex makes our relationship less worthwhile.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 First, we love each other & I don't think anything will ever change that. Second, I can wait for the actual sex after marriage. Its just that the lack of sex makes our relationship less worthwhile. Well then talk to her about needing some intimacy. I don't know how she will respond to it since I'm not her.
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