First night drunken behaviour in a club - relationship possible?

[james197]

I met this girl, on a drunken night in a club and got on ok, usual in away if you meet a girl in a club and more..

 

We got on a bit too well to a degree, very passionately kissing, then she gave me a handjob and all!! Now I wasn't complaining.

It started off she was feeling my stomach, her hand went lower she got a good feel/stroke for about a minute or more!!

I suggested we possibly go back to my place. She said she’d love to but had to go away with her friends. We exchanged numbers and left it at that. Now, I wasn't exactly looking for a ride or anything like that.

 

The following few days I'm a bit sceptical of meeting the girl again, in terms of if one is looking for a relationship or anything.

We text away for a few days anyways and she sends me a text apologising her drunken behaviour the night we met. I see this as fair enough and agree to meet a second time

 

The second night, we meet up in the club again, having been different places with our own mates, no handjob or anything like that this time. We talk a bit, wasn't going to embarass her by saying anything about the HJ. We get on ok, talk a bit, the usual and have a good enough night.

 

Later she declines my offer to go back to my place again, no excuse about going away with friends this time, again I was not looking for anything like what people might think. We go our separate ways then after the club, I ahving walked her to where her mates are etc. Later that night she texts me saying she likes me but does not want me to think I’m easy.

 

In away that seemed fair enough, I’ve met her since away from drink, getting to know each other ok. She seems lovely enough and wants more than to be more than meeting up.

Now I like the girl, she’s nice enough as I say, but can I possibly take a girl like this seriously?

 

It’s all well and good her saying she hopes I don’t see her as easy, but after the HJ in the club the first night we met, can I possibly expect a relationship with this girl?

Any advice on this would be appreciated, thanks

[lora22]

LOL

um, no, but that didn't stop you did it

[2sure]

So, she was drunk and got too friendly. Never happen to you?

She was embarrassed at her behavior. She apologized and has since behaved in a way that is normal for her.

It was a hand job, in a bar. It wasnt sex or a blow job. Seriously, this says exactly what about her?? That she had too much to drink and did something she normally wouldnt.

 

Would you prefer a relationship with a woman who never drinks and never gives hand jobs?

[Trialbyfire]

Let's not forget the most recent incident, a couple months of dating later, than the drunken handjob. The drunken tongue-down-each-other's throat kiss, with one of her best bi-sexual male friends.

 

As referenced in my previous post to you in another thread, this girl can't handle her alcohol and doesn't appear to have many boundaries, when she drinks.

[2sure]

LOLOL. TBF - I see its worth the bother to check the "back story" sometimes.

[lora22]

LOLOL. TBF - I see its worth the bother to check the "back story" sometimes.

 

Good advice if the incident stood on its own though!

[AAlike]

the fact that you are writing this in tandem with your other post about the bar almost makes it seem like you're trying to "build a case" that your GF is some kind of slut - in which case it seems that you've already made up your mind.

 

the HJ should not factor into your ultimate decision.

[james197]

I've only started posting here recently.

Got good advice on the drunken kiss so thought I'd get people's opinions on the first night incident as well.

 

I have to be honest, i can't believe I'm with someone like this. Usually probably would have bolted, but haven't and the relationship through various ups and down is still going on.

 

All advice is greatly appreciated on both counts.

 

Before I was with her, night out with other girls were jsut out of this world in greatness and craziness.

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I have to be honest, i can't believe I'm with someone like this.

 

As long as you think of her as "someone like this" it's not going to work no matter what you do.