xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 I was home all yesterday procrastinating and avoiding my phone. Musician guy decided to call me around 5 but I didn't pick up because I was being antisocial in general. Half an hour later, I get another missed call that came from a private number. So there I was looking over my phone and wondering who would be calling me from a private number. First of all, my plan became prepaid back in February so I haven't given it out to alot of people except my close friends. Second, I am a very private person so if I were to give out my number especially to strangers ( that become potential dates) their numbers are never private and it's a general known fact that they text more than talk. Third, Musician guy doesn't have a cell phone so he calls me from a land line. I'm starting to think he decided to turn his number private just so he could get me to pick up his calls. If he actually went through all that trouble then I would be very creeped out by his actions. He's a pisces, and pisces in general are very clingy. A little known fact as well being that we only hang out once, and he had made mention about wanting to meet my friends, and making arrangements for us to meet on his time.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 LOL...I think you're jumping to conclusions a little too soon. Until you have more evidence, don't assume it's him. I'm happy to be wrong, I just hope he doesn't get a bad rap because of something he may have not even done. I have a cell number that I've had for like 4 years. I've received wrong numbers. **** happens.
paddington bear Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 So, he's still calling you even though when you asked 'where's this going?' and he said 'nowhere'????? Think you need to make it clear to him that you don't want to be going 'nowhere' with him and for him to stop calling you. On the phone thing. I was getting private number phonecalls every day for a week at the same time. This was after meeting a dodgy person and giving them my business card and regretting it afterwards. I thought it was him being creepy and weird, calling me and then hanging up immediately. Then at the same time another day I answered the same unlisted number...and it was my mobile telephone company trying to sell me something, so I agree, don't read too much into it. Mind you, I had a 'difficult' friend who would do this, try another number or an unlisted number to force me to speak with her or to assess if I was avoiding her, so it can happen too.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 LOL...I think you're jumping to conclusions a little too soon. Until you have more evidence, don't assume it's him. I'm happy to be wrong, I just hope he doesn't get a bad rap because of something he may have not even done. I have a cell number that I've had for like 4 years. I've received wrong numbers. **** happens. Well he called me twice Saturday, and I didn't have my phone with me. Then he called me yesterday at 5, and then at almost 11, but by then I was asleep. I never had someone incessantly call me so much, and we only met once. I actually don't want to label him as a creep and really do hope it was someone else. But I rarely get calls from people unless they want something from me, and this guy wants something.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 So, he's still calling you even though when you asked 'where's this going?' and he said 'nowhere'????? Think you need to make it clear to him that you don't want to be going 'nowhere' with him and for him to stop calling you. On the phone thing. I was getting private number phonecalls every day for a week at the same time. This was after meeting a dodgy person and giving them my business card and regretting it afterwards. I thought it was him being creepy and weird, calling me and then hanging up immediately. Then at the same time another day I answered the same unlisted number...and it was my mobile telephone company trying to sell me something, so I agree, don't read too much into it. Mind you, I had a 'difficult' friend who would do this, try another number or an unlisted number to force me to speak with her or to assess if I was avoiding her, so it can happen too. :lmao: No paddings, sorry to get you all worked up. But it's not artist guy. This is Musician guy, the guy I " hanged out" with last week. The thing is, even if it's telemarketers I do see the numbers, and I rarely if ever get private calls. So I'm a bit curious about who would be calling me from a private number. The thing about this guy is he's great, very hyper and talkative, but he has a tendency to make plans that are on his time. He tells me he's busy all week, but then he tries to preoccupy my Saturdays at the park. I want to go out and party, not chill out at the park.
Trialbyfire Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 xpaper, why don't you just put musician guy out of his misery and tell him, thanks but no thanks? I think it's your guilty conscience over avoiding the issue.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 xpaper, why don't you just put musician guy out of his misery and tell him, thanks but no thanks? I think it's your guilty conscience over avoiding the issue. TBF, I thought about it. I thought about telling him that I'm still not over someone I met a month ago and that to want to pursue anything with him right now is foolish. But I don't owe him an explanation that gives details into my private life. Musician guy wants to know everything about me, and while I like someone who's attentive, I just can't imagine being his gf. I don't understand why I attract these kinds of guys and yet the guys I am attracted don't bat an eyelash. I would love to keep him as friend, but we all know where this can only lead to.
Trialbyfire Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 TBF, I thought about it. I thought about telling him that I'm still not over someone I met a month ago and that to want to pursue anything with him right now is foolish. But I don't owe him an explanation that gives details into my private life. Musician guy wants to know everything about me, and while I like someone who's attentive, I just can't imagine being his gf. I don't understand why I attract these kinds of guys and yet the guys I am attracted don't bat an eyelash. I would love to keep him as friend, but we all know where this can only lead to. "Look, while I like you as a person and possibly a friend, I'm just not feeling the other. I hope you can understand this but if not, I will understand. Take care of yourself, xpaper."
Star Gazer Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 I think you're jumping to conclusions in the hopes of further validating your self-worth and attractiveness, even through someone you're not interested in. I receive private calls ALL the time that are wrong numbers, political calls, my credit card company offering me some new service, whatever.
dreamergrl Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 paper is this one of the guys that you 'thought' was not a date?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 paper is this one of the guys that you 'thought' was not a date? Of course he's not a date. I cancelled on him for this weekend and had spend the entire weekend by myself.
JLee26 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 all of us Pisces are not clingy (lol) we just enjoy being around people, i prefer to call it social. Maybe he REALLY wants to be social with you. *wink*. Let him down easy if your not interested, and if he still calls after that, let him down hard. We do tend to be a bit bullheaded, **sigh** a downfall i know. But for the most part well intended! You could always pick up the phone and see who it is should a blocked number ever come through again.... Hope all goes well, fingers crossed.
Star Gazer Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Of course he's not a date. I cancelled on him for this weekend and had spend the entire weekend by myself. She's talking about the time you DID go out with him, where it WAS a date, but you tried to pretend like it wasn't.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 all of us Pisces are not clingy (lol) we just enjoy being around people, i prefer to call it social. Maybe he REALLY wants to be social with you. *wink*. Let him down easy if your not interested, and if he still calls after that, let him down hard. We do tend to be a bit bullheaded, **sigh** a downfall i know. But for the most part well intended! You could always pick up the phone and see who it is should a blocked number ever come through again.... Hope all goes well, fingers crossed. Well being a scorpio, I know I can be pretty intense. Yeah, he's pretty social, he can talk 50 words a minute and still manage to walk more than 10 miles without shortness of breath. He even accused me of being quiet. He's also inquisitive and in a way nosy, and I'm not use to it.
dreamergrl Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 She's talking about the time you DID go out with him, where it WAS a date, but you tried to pretend like it wasn't. Thanks, that was what I was getting at. Well being a scorpio, I know I can be pretty intense. Yeah, he's pretty social, he can talk 50 words a minute and still manage to walk more than 10 miles without shortness of breath. He even accused me of being quiet. He's also inquisitive and in a way nosy, and I'm not use to it. Maybe he's just being interested in you since you went out with him at one point, failed to mention that you didn't 'think' it was a date. Went out with him, let him believe you were interested in order to go do something, and now he's pursuing.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 Thanks, that was what I was getting at. Maybe he's just being interested in you since you went out with him at one point, failed to mention that you didn't 'think' it was a date. Went out with him, let him believe you were interested in order to go do something, and now he's pursuing. That comes across like I'm playing a game. I'm generally very friendly with everyone I meet, so it not intentional of me to come across as being interested. But we did sort of had a talk about it when we were at Washington Square Park that day. He made mention that it was a date, but I laughed it off and said I thought it was merely hanging out. So... eh... linguistics....
era Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 I think you're jumping to conclusions in the hopes of further validating your self-worth and attractiveness LOL..the reason I stopped reading and replying to xpaperxcutx posts. I'll shut up now.
dreamergrl Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 That comes across like I'm playing a game. I'm generally very friendly with everyone I meet, so it not intentional of me to come across as being interested. But we did sort of had a talk about it when we were at Washington Square Park that day. He made mention that it was a date, but I laughed it off and said I thought it was merely hanging out. So... eh... linguistics.... Laughing and making a remark could have been taken as playing hard, a joke, all sorts of things. When did you ever look this guy in the eye, seriously tell him that this was not a date? Which should have been done BEFORE even going out with him. He obviously took it as a date, and now is calling you. I don't blame him.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 LOL..the reason I stopped reading and replying to xpaperxcutx posts. I'll shut up now. Oh era, I missed you
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 Laughing and making a remark could have been taken as playing hard, a joke, all sorts of things. When did you ever look this guy in the eye, seriously tell him that this was not a date? Which should have been done BEFORE even going out with him. He obviously took it as a date, and now is calling you. I don't blame him. Simply because I never met him before. Everything about our meeting feels like a coffee get together as opposed to a date. We were getting to know each other not romantically intimate.
Star Gazer Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Simply because I never met him before. Everything about our meeting feels like a coffee get together as opposed to a date. We were getting to know each other not romantically intimate. You met him online. One of you sought the other out, in order to even begin communicating. How could you NOT think that there were romantic or sexual intentions behind this meeting??
kizik Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 *Insert kizik's mandatory disapproving comment to yet another ultimately self-serving papercut thread here*
dreamergrl Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Actually it's really no "trouble" at all to make a call private.. just matter of punching in #67 before the phone number. It's an old trick and although it could have been him calling, you really can't assume that. IF he was trying to block his number then maybe it's his creative way of trying to determine whether or not you're playing games. That's kinda what you're doing by avoiding his calls right? Just answer it next time. You can always feign a bad connection or something if you really don't want to talk to him, and then you'll know if it's him or not. Agreed, I have a hard time believing he turned his number private just to call you Paper, even if he does like you. You should just tell him you have no intentions on going out with him again. And DO NOT continue to go out with guys you have no interest in just for the sake of going out.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 Agreed, I have a hard time believing he turned his number private just to call you Paper, even if he does like you. You should just tell him you have no intentions on going out with him again. And DO NOT continue to go out with guys you have no interest in just for the sake of going out. I guess he was more interesting before I met him. That's the tantalizing thing about meeting people I don't know. Then the excitement wears off, and it's all a big yawnfest. I'll try not to go out with guys I'm not interested in. Does that count girls as well? Just playing. Lighten up guys. Datings suppose to be fun, not about clingy people and those that call two times a day.
bean1 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Lighten up guys. Datings suppose to be fun, not about clingy people and those that call two times a day. You do realize that this is something that you need to realize?
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