Passionate69 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Just wondering how would you react if you discover your spouse visiting dating sites; and perhaps have an acount in the dating sites. also how would you react if you discover that he have save thousands pictures of women boobs in the computer.
Bejita463 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Idle curiosity could lead to a simple visit to a dating site. If he has an account there, it may have been something he already had, and is currently inactive. If it IS active though, that is crap. As for the pictures... eh, pictures aren't really porn imo, but the opinions on that topic are pretty widely varied. A better question is how do YOU feel about him looking at other women, and have you talked to him about it?
samspade Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 You have to ask yourself if you're cool with it. There is a lot of talk of porn, strippers, etc. around here, and here is what I think, in a nutshell... It's only problematic if someone is sneaking around to enjoy these things. That is, he's either doing it because you expressly forbade such behavior, or because he believes you will disapprove. If you disapprove, then that's a discussion that needs to be had; perhaps his needs are different from yours. If you're okay with it, and perhaps if you want to share in the indulgence with him, you need to let him know, so he won't feel like a deviant. Tell him either "I don't care if you look at porn, just try to do it in moderation, " or, "Why didn't you tell me you were into boobs? Can I see some of your pics? How about we look at cocks next? It's only fair." The one thing you can't get around is that this is one of his interests, and while there is nothing wrong with it (as long as he's not an addict), then you need to determine whether your ships are sailing in the same direction - sexually.
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