WhyMe1980 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Alright I am an old lady bc I met and eventually married my husband pre-worldwide web. So, being recently single I got myself on Match.com for about a week. Got lots of emails and winks and god knows what else. I met up this past weekend first with a guy who was distant and there was no spark. He sent me a follow-up text telling me how hot I was (nice ass, I believe was the exact quote.) Didn't hear from him again which frankly was fine by me. Soooo I then meet up with a guy my age, similar background that I just fell into like/lust with immediately. He touch made me feel all tingly. We spent like 8 hours together laughing, smiling and sharing great stories. We hugged, rubbed and smooched together all night. I was dazzled. So it is now 24 hours later. I sent him a text when I got home telling him I really liked meeting him and to call me soon. I also was back online catching up with matches and noticed he was online too this afternoon. I IM'ed him and we had a good chat about his profile (it needed some work). I ended the chat with a line about thinking about him today. He went idle and I eventually logged out. He then disabled his chat. Now, the problem is that I am on the road during the week and will not be able to be online to catch up with him for the next 10 days. I am home at night M-W but not online. I sent him an email via Match.com telling him all this information and told him to call or text me if we could possibly get together this week before I hit the travel road. My question to you all is 3 contacts within 24 hours of a date stalking in this new world? Did I violate the rules? How do you know if they are interested or not? Was it a bad idea to repeatedly contact this guy and telling him how great a time I had with him? How long does he not respond before I just write him off? This self-loathing is killing me. Any advice is appreciated.
Island Girl Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 You contacted him a lot. Really a lot of things haven't changed very much. Men are still men and women are still women. If a woman allows the man to contact then not only can she gauge his interest but also she doesn't appear desperate or chasing. I am sure you told him you had a good time when you went out. The smooching gave him that impression as well so if you didn't -- he still knew you did. About e-mailing your schedule - that is something I wouldn't do from now on. When you are out on a date you can explain that your job leaves you without internet access for several days at a time.If they ask about more detail then give it. If they don't then you get back to them when you get back to them OR they can call instead.
Author WhyMe1980 Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 I am going to take down my profile for now. I need to get a hold of my emotions before I continue. On one point some things have changed. When I was growing up you did not date multiple people. You went out on dates and it either progresed to BF/GF or died. I think they call that serial monogamy now:-)
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