terra Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 So I recently came across an commentary in a newspaper about the high frequency of infidelity that occurs when soldiers are on tour. To be honest it kind of worries me. My boyfriend will be heading overseas very soon; he's an attractive guy and really easy to get along with. He will be over there for a long time, and he could very well meet a girl that would understand what he is going through. Ya never know. I feel apprehensive just hearing stories of seemingly normal loyal guys cheating. Any thoughts on this? Should I talk to him about it, or will I appear as though I lack trust in him (which is far from the case) or should I get a hobby and stop over analyzing things so much (also probably won't happen). All comments would be appreciated!
motive2002 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 I could be wrong, but I think there is probably as many stories of girlfriends/wives that cheat while their SO is on tour... or the other way around so to speak. I know I've heard of a least a couple personally.
Author terra Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 yes, I've heard that too. I think in our case he would have less to worry about on my end. I have family and a lot of friends (who he is friends with too) so I would have to go out of my way to meet someone and be secretive about it because everyone I associate with knows about the type of relationship that we have. But in his case he will be with Canadians, Americans, Brits - lots of new people, new and stressful environment. Very few people know him and his personal life - and even if they did "what happens in Iraq/Afghanistan stay in Iraq/Afghanistan." -That was a quote! It's scary!
lora22 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 You can't exactly accuse him of cheating before he's even had a chance to If it concerns you, maybe just be like "Wow, I just read the craziest thing, it seems so unbelievable to me" (or whatever), and show him the article to see what the thinks. That way you can talk about it without coming across the wrong way.
mark982 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 that's where love and trust come into play.how's your relationship.
Author terra Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 That's good advice Lora - I'm definitely going to give that a try! Our relationship is great, but the article stated that even in good relationships stress and the situation can cause normally faithful people to turn. I'm not overly worried but it's something I think about. I thought that some feedback or comments might help me see it from a different angle.
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