Lyssa Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I felt the same way back when and haven't look back with any regrets. I'm actually looking forward to turning 40, just to see what it has to offer. I'm sure 40 has a lot more to offer!
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 It's much better to be single and 30 something, than to have fallen in puppy love in your 20s and in the 30s now being divorced and supporting children. True, dat! Had the blind love, ****ing got married, thankfully couldn't get pregnant (one miscarriage), and now divorced. But yeah - reading the trends on this board, I'd better hang onto my BF. I'm 8 months short of 30 and once you hit 30, you know what happens! LOL So funny.
Trialbyfire Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I'm sure 40 has a lot more to offer! From what my Mom, aunts and older female "mentors" have told me, there's a transition that happens, where you trade off a bit of your body in that you can't punish your body as much, for a lot more confidence, acceptance and experience. Not such a bad trade-off, as long as you try to stay as healthy as possible, within reason. I like their attitude so now, I have 6 more years to learn it. Looking forward to what the next 6 years will bring. Sorry for the threadjack, Kamille. Yes, it's fun to be thirty-something and single. You have your feet under you and can truly enjoy the freedom, particularly if you were in a previous LTR or married. On the otherhand, it's also fun to be in a good relationship.
Cherished Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 You never answered my question. Will you feel the same if you turn 40 as a singleton?
Cherished Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 BUMP so the OP can see this to address my question.
dreamergrl Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Cheers to Dreamer going out and having drinks tonight, and doing it single style :cool::cool::cool:
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Cheers to that! I've quite enjoyed my 30's. I've had my ups and downs, but all together I've had a pretty great ride.
Sam Spade Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Wait, someone currently in a relationships advertises the benefits of being single?!? Dooon't buy it . That aside, thankfully there are multiple definitons of and pathways/scenarios to success in relationship, so 30+ is certainly not the kiss of death . It is true however that age would eventually become an issue for a particular scenario - the white picket fence, two blonde kids, and a pool definition/pathway scenario, and that's why it (this scenario) is limiting. But, this way of life is doomed anyway, so might as well skip it altogether .
Cherished Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Kamille, have you thought about my question? Because however long you spend "enjoying" that guy who is still into his wife, is more time wasted toward finding the guy who will be completely available and love you without all the baggage and crap (in love with another woman and deciding whether he wants to be with her).
Author Kamille Posted June 6, 2009 Author Posted June 6, 2009 Kamille, have you thought about my question? Because however long you spend "enjoying" that guy who is still into his wife, is more time wasted toward finding the guy who will be completely available and love you without all the baggage and crap (in love with another woman and deciding whether he wants to be with her). Hi Cherished, no not ignoring your question. I was out having a fabulous time! Love being 33! How will I feel when I turn 40... hmmm... Really, I don't see why my capacity to enjoy life and the people around me would change drastically. Plus, I have one of those careers where you usually "bloom" in your late 40s and 50s, so yeah, I'm not really concerned to be honest. Bring 40 on! It's coming anyway! As to the guy I'm dating: yes he is a real sweetheart, no he is no longer into his ex-wife, and never was. What he/they find difficult are issues surrounding the well-being of their children. As to finding someone who is completely available, that's a fair point, however, I myself am not "available" right now, as my future is all up in the air. So, for now, yes, I'm just enjoying the present and the people in my life - but you know what? I hope I always date like this, meeting and liking the person for who they are, without expectations. It makes dating so much easier and so much more enjoyable.
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