shy one Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 How long do you think is enough time before a guy asks a girl to be official bf/gf? I have been seeing someone for 2.5 almost 3 months now and everything is going great. He's 24 and I'm 23 and he is kinda really in to the "party scene" which worries me especially since summer is around the corner. However, I do party with him all the time and when we just hang out he is very sweet and shows me that he likes me--holds my hand, wants to cuddle, looks at me with affection, compliments me etc. He also takes initiative to call me and set up plans. Should I ask him straight out what the deal is? Or be patient since things are going good so far? What is the average time before a guy asks a girl to be his gf? Some of my friends say that a guy know within the first month whether things have potential and that he could just be stringing me along. I really don't buy into their opinions because I know he is genuine around me. Opinions please!!
Habeas Corpse Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Look at him in the eye and tell him you consider him his boyfriend. He should respond in kind. I hate using the word "official" as if some tribunal decides two people's relationship status.
lora22 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 I think it really depends on your comfort level, and how you feel you interact with him. I tend to wait for the guy to bring it up when things are going well, as you say they are. Doesn't hurt to just be like, "Hey, are we exclusive?" Or HC's works as well.
dark1san Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 A guy deffinately knows when he's ready or not. I've been with my gf going on 8 months now, after the 3rd date I think we felt that chemistry we'd been talking for at least a month before our third date, but I think it felt right between the two of us, I asked her if she wanted to keep seeing me, she said yes and just you and I said back that I liked that idea of just only dating seeing her also, and that was that.
colosseum Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Yeah, flip sexes and I was in your situation just two weeks ago. If he doesn't bring it up before you do, I'd say bring it up before summer hits. It's the worst when assumptions are made and hearts are unnecessarily hurt (though assumptions or not some pain may be unavoidable).
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