Too early to know forever?

[mammax3]

So I like this guy. I think he may be just what Ive been looking for in a man.

 

I am very hesitant to get any more involved than we currently are (which is just beginning) because Im worried about the distruption in the lives of my children if I'm wrong about him and we ultimately break up. Their father and I broke up 2 years ago, and while I'm over him, I think the older kids are still struggling somewhat.

 

There is also the component of extended family acceptance - I don't think either of us have support of our families, however neither family would likely be overt in their disapproval.

 

For some reason I have this emotional block about being someone's girlfriend when I'm in my thirties and have three kids. I'm quite prepared to give my all (and we're such a good match) if it means we're heading towards forever. I don't want to give everything over for just a year.

 

Does it seem like I just need some more time to adjust to the bf/gf idea?

Does it sounds like I don't really like him?

Am I overthinking our relationship by taking it to marriage/forever this early in the game?

 

I'd appreciate any insights.

Thanks.

[dark1san]

Thinking about forever can be tricky sometimes, and really plays with your mind also. I thought me and my ex-wife were going to be "forever" and she up and left me not even 2 years into our marriage no reason, just said she couldn't continue to lie to me and didn't want to hurt me more than she already did.

 

So I had to start over myself, and yeah it's scary, you don't know what to expect in the dating scene, specially if you were with someone for a long period of time, 5 years was long to me, and when I got back in the dating scene I thought I met the right ones here and there but nothing ever came out of them.

 

And I'm now with someone going on 8 months now and it's been nothing but great for me. If things are going great between you two, don't over anyalyze things just go with the flow and appreciate what you have with him