Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 You have to start over because he contactd you!??! That dosen't sound right. If you avoided him its still no contact from your end even if it did set your feelings back.
Author bluewolf17 Posted June 2, 2009 Author Posted June 2, 2009 You have to start over because he contactd you!??! That dosen't sound right. If you avoided him its still no contact from your end even if it did set your feelings back. I wasn't sure..I read somewhere that since I was "in contact" (ie, read his text) that I had to start over. If not, then I'm good.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I think your good. If anything you should get extra points because you avoided him. lol
TheBigCow Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Do you lose points if you've been just about to do it before friends manage to talk you out of it? .. If so I lose a lot of points.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 I'd say maybe a half a point because your friends talked you out of it instead of you talking yourself out of it. Don't worry though I have lost so many points I think I am in the negative by now. He keeps contacting I keep responding. I have kind of realized that with having kids I can't do NC and will have to do LC and that COMPLETLEY SUX!!!!!!!!!
TheBigCow Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Nah I'm pretty sure having kids changes the scoring system. LC must be hard but NC would compromise your kids, so at least be proud in yourself for not choosing the more selfish option.
iBelieve In Symmetry Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 I wasn't sure..I read somewhere that since I was "in contact" (ie, read his text) that I had to start over. I think we do start over by even reading something they sent you. At least this is a rule I made to myself, even checking their MySpace/whatever they may have. I do it for various reasons. One of them being that NC is about strictly being focused on moving on, and obviously you're not strictly focusing on moving on if you're checking their MySpace/Facebook to see what's going on in their life. NC is about focusing on YOUR life and getting your life back on track. If I check her MS or blog, I go back to day 1 NC because all I'm doing is being weak and (at least to me) it gives the same affect as talking to her. Sends me back to feeling the way I felt day 1 post-breakup. Besides, I feel a lot better not knowing what's going on in her life so I'm keeping it that way and hopefully any temptations I might get will not win.
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