jaggy666 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 hey I went out with a girl last week for our first date and it went ok, she had to leave early cause of work next day. I took that as an excuse so i didnt mention going out again but then i got a text message from her the next day saying she was sorry she had to leave and would i like to go out for dinner soon. As i work with her we agreed to discuss it then. So, saw her at work expecting to arrange a day but she walked straight past me not even saying hi. I texted her later on and she said "sorry i was really busy, didnt see you" so i gave her the benefit of the doubt, then for the next few days we were messaging eachother all day. She asked me to go out with her and some work friends for a leaving do, so i get there and she was in a corner and i had no way of getting over to her it was so busy, next thing i know she gets up and leaves 15 mins later. I try to catch her up but she has gone, saw her at work next day and she blanked me when i tried to speak to her. I know she cant be interested anymore but i dont know how it could have nosedived so fast! It went from her asking me out to not talking to me. I need a female perspective on this...
LoveLace Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I'm thinking she might have met someone else and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I don't think it's anything you did...
robinincarolina Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Perhaps she is playing hard to get? Or perhaps she is just playing period. Thats a tough one, she is sending mixed signals. Be freindly and neutral and see what happens. Don't question her behavior. If she suggests meeting again, turn her down. Don't be so available. That does tend to turn women off. Just be upbeat and act as if its no big deal. If it sparks her interest back up, then you can fiqure out whats going on in her head when the time is right.
lora22 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 Too many games. Ditto on the texting. Next time talk to a girl face to face - instead of texting her something like "why didn't you say hi to me" go up to her and be like "HI!"
Trialbyfire Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I'm guessing she's pretty young and if not, she's pretty immature. Back off and stay away. She's a head case.
Author jaggy666 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 i didnt text her that, lol. I asked how she was and she looked in a hurry as I didnt get a chance to say hi. Im thinking she may have met someone else which kinda sucks if true but i would rather her tell me this! Were not a couple so i dont understand why she cant be honest with me.
lora22 Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 i didnt text her that, lol. I asked how she was and she looked in a hurry as I didnt get a chance to say hi. Maybe I'm just getting old, but I still think it's better not to text. Im thinking she may have met someone else which kinda sucks if true but i would rather her tell me this! Were not a couple so i dont understand why she cant be honest with me. You would think it would be easier to be honest - but that rarely happens (especially if you rely on the person to tell you). But to be perfectly honest, the fact that you're not a couple, or dating, means she doesn't actually owe you anything. If you asked her point blank, then you might have more of a point about the honesty thing. Anyways, I feel the same way you do about that, but I've learned that most people don't/aren't. You'll be better off with someone that you don't have to wonder about all the time.
Author jaggy666 Posted May 31, 2009 Author Posted May 31, 2009 your right lora, thank you. Its funny i just got off the phone to a mutual mate who told me she is worth chasing. (He's known her a lot longer than i have) That she's maybe nervous etc. Im just gonna try and forget about it, in my opinion its a waste of time trying!
LoveLace Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 your right lora, thank you. Its funny i just got off the phone to a mutual mate who told me she is worth chasing. (He's known her a lot longer than i have) That she's maybe nervous etc. Im just gonna try and forget about it, in my opinion its a waste of time trying! Well there's a difference between playing hard to get and flat out dissing you, and if they dis you, not worth chasing.
WineCountry Posted May 31, 2009 Posted May 31, 2009 I agree that it kind of sounds like she is dissing you. I know that if i guy I was truly interested in expressed interest in getting to know me, I would be more approachable than she has been. I would say back off, and just let it be. I would assume she is just not interested. If she really really wants to go out with you again, she knows how to find you.
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